i won’t mind having a 2nd wife. 
Dude… twice the nagging, and twice the spending of your money. Twice the “Not tonight dear, I have a headache”.
Think again 
ahh the joys of having two wives 
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*Originally posted by mAd_ScIeNtIsT: *
Twice the "Not tonight dear, I have a headache".
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Wrong! This part would actually be halved, if you had a second wife.
Being desi women, they’d coordinates their “headaches” 
so?? nobody said to just mary desi.
One can be like a sailor, a wife at every port the ship docks in. So no 2 wives together. And as you are only there every so often, they're always happy to see you. :D
1 woman is more than enough for any guy unless he is totally crazy. Btw the headache part, that is easily remedied. Give her an advil and say you are going out on the town. That should fix her right up :D
^ u men r so evil 
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1 woman is more than enough for any guy unless he is totally crazy. Btw the headache part, that is easily remedied. Give her an advil and say you are going out on the town. That should fix her right up :D
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no advil. sleeping-pills :D
^:disgust:
Lola, thank you for the reply, interesting! (I read it b4 u edited)
- guys stick to the topic please :-/
Well I have two uncles who took on second wives because the first ones didn’t bear them any children, in one case the first wife ended up in a divorce, after having so many conflicts with the second wife (they lived under the same roof) the husband sided with the second wife and gave the first a divorce, and in the second case the first wife went back to her parents house and that became her permanent residence, she never came back, she still tries to keep in touch with her husband though. I know I would never consider it, I wouldn’t be able to handle it. 
Sleeping pill is a bad idea. You want her to be awake when you walk in all happy and giddy and joking with your pals outside about the fine women around the bar and clubs :D
I know a person who has two wives and he is a close friend, even one of wives happen to be our first cousin and they seem really okay with it. They even joke about this stuff. For example we were at a place where a marriage was gong to be held and whole couple (all of three) :) was there and one of wives goes like. 'our invitation card should mention Mr. and Mrs * 2 on the card warna we aint coming ' i mean that was pretty funny at that time and those two wives are very good friends...
I have heard that father of one girl died and she had no family bla bla..
i dont know what was the first wife's reaction though
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Allah khair karay Shinoo its not "sunnah" in that sense
for me, its a BIG FAT NO dont even have to think about it
and i know my parents would never want me to either
i'd rather stay single all my life than be a second wife [in fact recently i'm seriously thinking staying single is not a bad option, why not, banda apni marzi se zindagi guzaray, marriage is not farz in islam, aur duniya mein boht kuch rakha hae for a person to do other than get married n raise a family, why just follow societal convention, andho kee tarhan bhair chaal?]
unless the first wife has passed away or officially divorced etc, then ofcourse its different lekin to be a second wife when there is a jeeti jaagti first wife is like TERRIBLE
i've seen such marriages very closely, and trust me its HELL for the woman and i'd never ever want to go thru that, u must have heard that saying k aurat ka dil bohot bara hota hae wo sab kuch bardaasht ker sakti hae but she cant share her husband :)
i really respect those women and admire them who can do samjhota with their halaat and can live with their sokans peacefully, coz its not easy
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hear hear :) Irem stands for the women of the new millenium!
I really don’t understand why the men go around marrying 2nd wives to have offspring when the first one couldn’t have 'em. Kinda puts the first one down. If I were in the situation, I’d probably adopt if we couldn’t have any.
Sheesh, second wife? I don’t understand how guys can handle one and they want two! 
As for the used goods, whoever said that its more guys than girls. Thats really hard to believe.
Big Fat NO.
Also, the verse of the Qur'an that "allows" for 1-4 wives also stipulates if you can treat them equally and then there's the verse that follows saying surely, you cannot treat them equally.
I'll get the exact quote for accuracy.
Muslim cannot marry without the permission of his
first wife.
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