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why not ask the hubby wht he wants and share wht ya think on this issue !
communication mates !
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Great. Next time I want to cut my toenails, I’ll ask my husband’s preference on it. 
“Honey, do you want me to leave the edges sharp (meow) or soft (purr)?”
Bah.
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A simple rule should be followed, which should be applied to both of them.
If the husband thinks that he has a right to tell his wife what he would like her to wear, than he should also give the same right to his wife in terms of his own dress and vice versa.
In this matter, there should be either a two way traffic or no traffic. One should not expect one's spouse to respect his/her views on a certain matter when the person doesn't respect the views of his/her spouse.
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coco she should celebrate it like a wedding should be ..1st 2nd 3rd dunn matter. so simple not simple elaborate flashy whatever is her choice but she should do what she would like to do not what some illconceived societal expectations are.
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STP...i agree with you "..there should be either a two way traffic or no traffic."
i pick out my husband's clothes...he wears the ties i pick out....and he asks me 'honey what should i wear'
I wear whatever he/and I like...because....i dont know...its just..theres something about this relationship that makes you want be like that....its a blessing from ALLAH..
or you can go your separate ways...and might as well sleep in different beds...but the truth is that we humans function well under co-dependency....and always will.. :)
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hmm its a touchy point.....u dont want 'ghur-wale' to start making baatein behind her back etc etc.....
personally me......i wouldn't get too dressed up......and i'd hope for my new hubby to understand......
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People WILL talk regardless the way the bride dresses up. Its normality of
-tive kind. Why bother, who will talk? Who will appreciate or give any a medal for not going all the way? Do as you see fit. A future husband wants his bride to look at her best and also it generates warm affection. Ignore there has been a past. Give the future the best start possible.
Had it been myself, Id take the full package and look to die for. Future hubby should be swept off his feets....lol
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^ true...
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first of all, congrats to her for her upcoming wedding. and thumbs up for the groom to be....now if only there were more real men like him...
second...like fraudz said...doesnt matter how many times she got married before..a weddding is a wedding...even first time brides like to look simple and all that....she should do what she wants to do...and if her and her man are fine with it, then so be it!
go glam or stunningly simple....either way, i'll hope she'll have the time of her life!
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wow...she got lucky...that a previously unwed guy is marrying her...and she doesn't want to get dressed up for him.
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she should dress up, this is because she starting a new life with a new man, and i believe that one should leave the past where it is, and start afresh....
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Thanks..everyone..yeah getting married the 2nd time..is not a sin..as seen in some people's eyes. But i think she should still get dressed up..as there are so many..new outfits.to chose from and it is a wedding after all.
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Awww thats such a sweet story btw...I think she should do what her heart tell her..and that ofcourse what her husband to be would want too...Best of luck in the future for her:)
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wow...she got lucky...that a previously unwed guy is marrying her...and she doesn't want to get dressed up for him.
Just because she was married before doesnt make her a lesser candidate for marriage than a non married girl.
She should dress up and not let past wounds affect her happiness of today. Live life to the fullest, you only live once!
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wow...she got lucky...that a previously unwed guy is marrying her...and she doesn't want to get dressed up for him.
WHAT does that suppose to mean?? Just because she was married before doen,t mean she is a lesser person. I think she can get dressed..up. Just beace one person was an a hole doesn,t mean the other will be too.
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I don't know why people in our society look at divorced women differently. Most of the wives of the Prophet (saw) were divorced women.
It is the character, (Seerat & Haya) and manners that matters the most, no matter how she looks like and what is her back ground.
Her physical appearance and back ground would fade away with time, but the inner beauty would always remain, by the grace of Allah.
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BECAUSE its her husband's first time???
WHY can't it be because she does or does not want to? Why are we constantly setting up these standards for women, that everything they do must be to make the husband happy?
PCG, I cannot agree to you more than this. Well said.
Let her be whatever she is happy with. However, if she is not dressing up (though she wants to) because of whatever reason, then the husband and her friends should make her do it. May be she is waiting for that push to dress up. Don't disappoint her then.
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I don't know why people in our society look at divorced women differently. Most of the wives of the Prophet (saw) were divorced women.
It is the character, (Seerat & Haya) and manners that matters the most, no matter how she looks like and what is her back ground.
Her physical appearance and back ground would fade away with time, but the inner beauty would always remain, by the grace of Allah.
You know, usually your comments are borderline extreme, but I do agree with you on this. This is the pitiful state we're in. Our religion teaches us SO much about forgiveness and redemption, and individuality, and that no one has the right to judge anyone else, and has taught us so much about respecting women as PEOPLE. Yet, our Pakistanis are still hell bent on judging this woman - everything from stating that she is lucky to be getting married, to that she should not be so extravagant in her dressing, etc - as if she doesn't deserve to be happy!
And its not even like she had her child out of wedlock. She was MARRIED before. She was not whoring around!