A friend of mine is getting married again. Her previous marriage didn’t work out. She feels she doesn,t need to get all dressed up again as she has one child. I feel she needs to get dressed as a proper bride. what do you think?? The guy has not been married before.
Please give sincere answers..no jokes..!
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How old is the son? I'd say dress up lightly if not bride-bride type.
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She is getting married to her Husband...Thus...She SHOULD become a Dulhan for HIM.....after all..we all adorn the roop of a Dulhan for our Dulha...not the spectators....
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You say the guy has not been married before? Like Lusi said, I think she can dress a little if not a lot. And afterall, if you look @ it positively, it's not like it is the end of the world for her after her first marriage. The guy has not been married before and plus this is her moment (regardless of whether its her second marriage) so she shud enjoy it. Having kids does not mean you cannot enjoy your precious moments. I pray that may Allah make everything easier for her Insha'Allah, give her ajar and make her (along with rest of her family) walk on the path to Jannah.
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the trend's to be a simple bride these days. so maybe you both can find a middle ground :D
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HHL, took the words right out of my mouth. All the best to ya friend.
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the trend's to be a simple bride these days. so maybe you both can find a middle ground :D
I agree with Khumi. Simple weddings are the way to go! Some people will continue to have grand weddings, to make a statement and to prove themselves. Typically weddings here (or at least the ones that I have been to)have like at least around 500 people attending. So long as you and your partner are happy with the arrangements, thats all that matters. Going overboard ain't gonna make you any happier.
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She can certainly make an effort and look special, even if she won't be the typical sharmeeli bride, at least put in such an effort that she won't look as if she's just going to another davat..
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Thanks guys...for your replies..
Her son is 3 years old..and she is still young..!
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hi...i think she should still get dressed up but maybe not wear red. and then do lighter jewlery and makeup but still wear it...its still a wedding after all and esp since its her husbands first time...she should still look like a bride...simpler but still a bride. i dont see anything wrong w. that.
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coco look through the bridal pics thread in images 3. some really nice ideas there. a lot of the looks there are simple, yet still bridal.
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What? So, if she has a child, she doesn't have a right to look stunning?
So, what if it was the other way around. What if the guy had a child? Should he come into his second marriage ceremony wearing a mal-mal ka shalwaar kurta instead of being decked up in raw silk?
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She should wear what she is comfortable in. I hope that she does not feel any sort of "shame" about the second wedding. As long as that is not the reason she doesn't want to get decked out let her do it her way.
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well i guess she shud dress up like a bride cuz it's her husband's first time...she's goin to begin a new life so she shud get ready 4 her husband...May best wishes r wiv her...May Allah give her a happy married life!
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BECAUSE its her husband's first time???
WHY can't it be because she does or does not want to? Why are we constantly setting up these standards for women, that everything they do must be to make the husband happy?
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COCO,
you are a good friend of your friend to be caring for her happiness.
but it is her choice to make. a simple bride is a bride still.
may all happiness surround her as she remarries.
Dushwari
A friend of mine is getting married again. Her previous marriage didn't work out. She feels she doesn,t need to get all dressed up again as she has one child. I feel she needs to get dressed as a proper bride. what do you think?? The guy has not been married before.
Please give sincere answers..no jokes..!
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hmmmmmm why do i want to see my husband happy? ...maybe because when we get married...we think of each other's happiness...
to consider each other while making decisions is a sign that we are growing up...and we want to be in a responsible and a mature commitment/relationship...
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but if they both agree to make it simple..then thats another thing...its just that...they both should be sailing in the same boat to begin with...iwould hate to see broken hearts on the wedding day... :(
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Both the husband and wife should share and know each other's likeness and feelings (through sister/net/phone) in terms of each other's dress and what they would like to wear themselves.
All the other people related to the couple should refrain from insisting anything and let the couple decide what they would like for themselves.
No matter what she wants to wear, it would be better that she discuss it with her husband to be, and vice versa (Just to show each other respect and develp understanding)
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hmmmmmm why do i want to see my husband happy? ...maybe because when we get married...we think of each other's happiness... to consider each other while making decisions is a sign that we are growing up...and we want to be in a responsible and a mature commitment/relationship...
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