mizsani
November 3, 2010, 5:30am
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Re: 2011 Brides
My sentiments exactly… except for the difference that I come from a big family and his is smaller … but I am still not a fan of living with the inlaws. I feel like even if you have a good relationship with them before shaadi… that it may be a potential recipe for disaster due to conflicts of interest, constant potential of expectations, etc. It is just my personal opinion. Every situation I have seen - the new dulhan has to compromise. But never the other way around. It’s his parents… you have to respect them and its their house… so you have to respect that.. so it is a tough situation to be in. Luckily my fiance shares my sentiments and that is why we will get our own place InshAllah - but we will be living close to his parents. So it is a win win for everyone in my opinion
Yikes! I think you were right in letting your fiance know how you felt … and your MIL seems very accomodating. It could have been a potential for a huge drama … but that did not happen so that is GREAT!!! I think with this in mind, even though you were disappointed with your eid outfit … you have less to worry about for your walima. They may let you choose it … and i think it is a good idea to wear stuff around them that is of your choice so that they can get a GOOD idea of what you like. Very smart
yaaa.. my fiance and I are still figuring out the seprate living situation and deciding on how exactly it will work.. hmmm I get so frustrated about it sometimes…