S02
March 5, 2011, 4:58pm
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Re: 2011 Brides
Guys I need your advice! So I posted on this topic before like several times and now with the wedding approaching faster (i.e. 4 months) I need some advice that I can get through my head. So long story short, my rukusati is happening in July, I got nikkahed in May of 2009. Now my husband doesnt have any parents as both have passed away and has only one sister. The people who arranged us were really close family friends who helped raise him. At first, I tried to treat them like inlaws but they never really included me so I was like whatever and gave up. but now one of the women her daughter is getting 2 weeks before me. thus far the guy’s side has done absolutely nothing besides book the walima hall. They are not involved at all and even though they said that would help out in both weddings, they really only are paying attention to the other girl. We gave them our dates 4 months ago and that girl’s walima is the day before my mayoun. They were well aware of this and now they want us to move it. They were like make sure that your dress isnt completely red because its going to clash with the other girls. Its like wtf, at first your not involved and your not considering me at all. So what am I supposed to do?
Shadis are high stress time and people say and do all sorts of things they wouldn’t normally. Just keep things as is, and try not to stress or focus too much on their stuff. It’ll be fine!