2011 Brides

[starrysky]

Re: 2011 Brides

@nidasak

Hey congratssssss u re getting engaged woo hoo!! I knowww wut u must be going thruu!! I m currently in Karachi & everything is so super expensive these dayssssssss!! I am doing my shoppin as fast as possible cuz with time prices will increase. I jes recently got my venue booked and now will move to next step. When re u plannin to get married?? Good luck

Awwww congratulations on getting the venue booked!! That’s amazing! Where are you having the shaadi then? Waterproof and air conditioned is hard to find!

This whole process is so emotional isn’t it? It hasn’t really hit me yet. When people congratulate me I’m like huh, for what? It feels like they are referring to somebody else.

We will probably get married in Oct/Nov so I’ve still got some time for my shopping. And I am coming back to Karachi in July iA so I can get more stuff done then. I don’t even know what I’m supposed to buy?! I’ve ordered a few suits but I hardly ever wear shalwar kameez so it feels a bit pointless.

@madinahme

starrysky - do in-laws give money for jewlery as well or just clothes?

Madinahme- I don’t think in laws give money for the wedding jewellery because they might have something made already. If they are buying something new then it’s expected I have some say with the colours etc because it has to match the wedding outfit. I have no idea what’s happening on that front with my in laws. I did choose my engagement ring entirely on my own though and my fiance is paying for that, not his parents. What did you guys do?

@muslimah118

Yes, she IS a meddler! When my MIL bought me a jewelry set, the SIL started calling her like a crazy person, asking how much it cost, how many grams of gold it has, etc. Basically she wanted to compare it to the one my MIL gave her when she married into their family. You’re so lucky that your mom put your foot down for you. Just play your cards right- I think the engagement period is a very tender time, as the in-laws are forming their impression of you & your family. As long as you’re tactful, you can probably get away with whatever you

Omg she is no friend of yours dude. Stay away from her! She is clearly jealous! Plus you are an outsider, both generally plus in terms of being a Pakistani so that’s probably getting on her nerves more. Bear in mind, she has more influence than you on the MIL right now so be really careful about what you say to her.

My mum put her foot down because even when she got married 35 years ago, she got to choose her own stuff. That’s just how it is with us! I think the issue is that my in laws only do arranged marriages and this is the first time there will be a love marriage in their family. So they are a bit confused about how to do things. But after my mum put her foot down my MIL has become super sweet and she wants me to go buy all this stuff including make up!

You’re right, the engagement period is the time when lasting impressions are made about both sides. My MIL has created so much drama that I would seriously not go ahead with this marriage if it wasn’t for the fact that I will not be living in the same city as them.