and PunjabiRose:
Its really complicated yar.. My fiance doesnt not want to get married until he gets a job but his parents decided the date and didnt bother to ask him 
on top of that my mom wants to go to pakistan as my nani amma is in critcal conditition and doctors have already said that she cant survive for more than few months… She is on bed, she doesnt eat/drink/talk/even open her eyes. It seems that she is in comma so my mom wants to see her as she hasnt seen her in the past 10 years… She can only go after i get married.
My parents did say that if your son isnt set yet, we can postpone the date but they said its okay.. Allah malik hai
but now since the date is fixed so nothing can be done. Inshallah he will get a job by the time we get married but not sure how much he will be earning. He said to me that both of us need to work together and help each other.. So yes i will have to look for jobs and inshallah we will live a good life when both of us are earning reasonably…
Well in my family parents do give out stuffs like bedroom sets, jewlery(according to their hasiat) but not necessarily the kitchen items. The reason why my mom is getting me every possible thing is because my saasu maan is giving me an upper portion of their house that has its own kitchen, rooms, living room n dinning room. My inlaws never asked for anything(so far…alhamdullillah) but my mom knows what i will need and she doesnt want me to go downstairs and ask every little things and i know most likely my fiance is gonna get a research job at the hospital and all he is gonna get is small stipend so he can pay for small things like bills, transportation and stuffs.. so i cant expect him to buy me everything i need right after we get married because thats unfair. Until both of us get a decent job my inlaws are gonna support us in the way they can. But the problem is they are retired and they lived a hand to mouth life because all their childrens are studying medicine and no one is working in their house. My fiance is the first one to become a doc insahllah…
so i cant expect a lot from them, nor i like to borrow every thing from my sasu maa…Seriously I will have nothing in my kitchen when i get married… so ammi does have to get me dinnerware, to cookware.. btw i didnt ask for it.. I am just getting it 