20 Year old Pakistani Girls

goodname · August 11, 2013, 4:10am

Re: 20 Year old Pakistani Girls

I’m really taken back by all the hate that I’m seeing on this thread towards both women who get married early and women who remain unmarried at an older age. I’m 20 years old and am engaged to be married sometime next year inshAllah. I have an amazing fiance who happens to support my goal of receiving an education and going to grad school. I don’t understand the assumption that if a girl gets married while she’s still in school, she wont be able to finish her education. The two things are not mutually exclusive. And for those of you who think that after getting married I’ll somehow magically change my mind and decide to become a housewife, let me straight up say you are wrong. Although getting married at the age of 20 isn’t an ideal situation for me, it is what it is but it’s never something that I viewed as a hassle in the way of me finishing my education. I know lots of girls who completed their degrees after they got married including my mother (let me specify that she got her degree in America so that there are no assumptions that she got her degree in Pakistan where it’s “easy” for girls to go to college). Getting married was always a priority of mine and so was getting and education. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with wanting to get married just like there’s nothing wrong with not wanting to get married. What I don’t understand is the attitude of girls of who don’t want to get married and look down upon girls who get married or act like not wanting to get married somehow makes them superior.

Mubarakoo. Naik khwaishon tahwan je subhani lai.