Re: 18 yr old New Zealander goes to PAK to marry a Guy!
i wonder if people's opinions'd change if it were a 18 yr old pakistani girl who went to NZ to get married. hmmz!
i wonder if people's opinions'd change if it were a 18 yr old pakistani girl who went to NZ to get married. hmmz!
In that case that would be labelled by some as "liberating" being open minded" and for correct/right reason without the "evil" motives of settling there..............talk abt hypocracy!
Re: 18 yr old New Zealander goes to PAK to marry a Guy!
who? what? farhana jee, breathe. aaram se baat karein..
Re: 18 yr old New Zealander goes to PAK to marry a Guy!
ku baicharoh ko tang kar rahai ho?
Re: 18 yr old New Zealander goes to PAK to marry a Guy!
With the information at hand (not much) and the fact that no one here PERSONALLY knows them (as far as I know), I dont think we can judge. Yes, many men in Pak are desperate to get out, yes many girls at 18 are immature and foolish...But Id rather hope that this is not the situation here and simply wish them happiness
Re: 18 yr old New Zealander goes to PAK to marry a Guy!
what if this started happening in"mass".Gories comin from all the westen world to Pak for guys.It would give alot of people a run for their money! lol............
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Re: 18 yr old New Zealander goes to PAK to marry a Guy!
are there any Kiwi (new zealander) here or married to one?
Re: 18 yr old New Zealander goes to PAK to marry a Guy!
no kiwi or aussie?
I would've said 'good for her' if she wasn't just 18..
Oh, and regarding all the guys on here saying how great it is I'd love to see how many of them would let their own teenage sisters go off and do the same thing..
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even the non-desi girl has learnt the maa-behn comparison trick. :p
I would've said 'good for her' if she wasn't just 18..
Oh, and regarding all the guys on here saying how great it is I'd love to see how many of them would let their own teenage sisters go off and do the same thing..
UUhhhhhh. Now what can we poor brothers say.
For your information, sisters are not possessions. And I am sure they are perfectly capable of making decisions on their own. I trust my sister and I would rather she marries the guy she prefers instead of feeling compelled to put up with someone not compatible with her simply because her family deemed the match fit for her.
This girl in question CAN get divorce if the guy turns out to be a self-obsessed-citizenship greedy-monster, as some of the posters here seem to dread. I am sure that is a perfectly acceptable option and that there is no stigma attached to divorce in NZ.
For Pete's sake, it is not as if the poor innocent bechari teenage lass has consented to bondage or something so harrowing she is doomed to a life of agony.
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^ I didn't say sisters were possessions but how many Pakistani brothers (or dads or mums) would stand by and not say anything let alone encourage an 18yr-old girl in their family to do something like this. My own brother has no actual say in my choice of partner but doesn't mean he keeps his mouth shut (regardless of whether I listen or not) if he thinks what I'm doing is wrong.. I bet none of u would encourage ur own sisters to do the same yet ur sitting here making out it's great..
UUhhhhhh. Now what can we poor brothers say.
For your information, sisters are not possessions. And I am sure they are perfectly capable of making decisions on their own. **I trust my sister and I would rather she marries the guy she prefers instead of feeling compelled to put up with someone not compatible with her simply because her family deemed the match fit for her.
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This girl in question CAN get divorce if the guy turns out to be a self-obsessed-citizenship greedy-monster, as some of the posters here seem to dread. I am sure that is a perfectly acceptable option and that there is no stigma attached to divorce in NZ.
For Pete's sake, it is not as if the poor innocent bechari teenage lass has consented to bondage or something so harrowing she is doomed to a life of agony.
Obviously she should be with whoever she wants but no need to rush off to get married at 18 to someone in another (much poorer) country after only chatting to them online.. I don't believe parents/family should stand in the way of their kids wanting to marry who they want but there's no reason to let all common sense go out the window and divorce might not hold the same social stigma for girls in NZ that it does in desi culture but there are practical problems like what happens if they have kids etc.
^^Oh the self-righteousness. Rest assured no one keeps their mouth shut in matters like these. The khandan walay would most probably urge her to consider, if she has not already, the consequences of her decision but that is pretty much all they can do. If your adult sister, or relative or whatever, has made a decision, and is determined to marry someone of her choice, it is better, even if you don't completely agree, to give her your best wishes than to ostracize her.
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Obviously she should be with whoever she wants but no need to rush off to get married at 18 to someone in another (much poorer) country after only chatting to them online.. I don't believe parents/family should stand in the way of their kids wanting to marry who they want but there's no reason to let all common sense go out the window and divorce might not hold the same social stigma for girls in NZ that it does in desi culture but there are practical problems like what happens if they have kids etc.
No divorce, which is after all the worst-case scenario for the poor lass in question, is not a big deal even if there are kids involved. I have seen divorced people living completely normal lives and perfectly adjusted kids even of desi divorced couples. It is hardly a catastrophe. At least in most civilized societies it is not.
Re: 18 yr old New Zealander goes to PAK to marry a Guy!
This is not going to turn out well. LOL One day she might hate all pakistani men, because this foo took advantage of her.