When reading ‘Zulam on bhabi’ wat comes in to ur mind??? torture, abuse-mental or physical. Everyone sees this different. Please do put light to whether this is zulam. Someone overheard my bhabi saying to my brother that we do zulam on her, that person told me. I am in such a shock.. Allah is our witness I or my parents never intended or did any thing that can be seen/said as zulam.
We live in a joint family; meaning I and my siblings all live in one house. We have huge house. We can not move out as hubby’s business is in crises and infact no one is in such as position to move out
What happened is that on Friday, Mum asked me to come with her to do shopping (ie groceries). Mum usually does this as we (me and bhabi) have small childrens. I am the only female driver in the family. Mum made onions and cut vagetables for cooking. Bhandi goshat was decided for lunch. I took her to shopping centre. When we came back my daughter wanted to eat, when I went to kitchen there was only fried onions. I was in shock as we have strict time for lunch and it want ready and I couldn’t see meat anywhere. Mum was in kitchen putting shopping away, I asked her wats happening for lunch. She looked at it and said that she will prepare quickly. I make omlate for my daughter and starting to feed her.
Wat happened was that plan was changed to cook bhandi onion nt goshat. And she was waiting for tomatos to arrive. This is it and nothing else happened and I didn’t tool notice of anything else. And bhabi called my brother and said whatever including zulam.
This is how we do house work. Bhabi loves cooking and is a good cook but hates washing dishes so I do the dishes (too much dishes for a 10 member family). In cooking there is only HANDI, and few rotis as not few members eat rotis. WE do shared cleanings once a week; with that I do vaccum (everyday) and dusting(whenever I can do). I clean the kitchen in total. I make lunch for those who take with them to their work. Mum put clothes washings in and out for dry and than brings in and distributes. Every one does their own ironing. We have 3 kids. 1 being mine and 2 bhabis. Kids are so close to my mum (she has fractured arm and she can use 100%) still she feeds them, changing their nappies. Little brother puts bhabis kids(especially youngest one to sleep as they show too much tantrums). They are so close to him that we call him chachoo-mummy
My daughter spends day time with my mum but other times she is attached to my sis and bhabi.
Bhabi has medical condition and gets fits due to which doctors has warned us to keep an eye on her and never leave kids with her alone.
This is not first time such issues happened. Before she spread to everyone and even in Pakistan that I am jealous of my nephews( I didn’t had my daughter then). Why would I be jealous. I love them so much and they are my jan. They were born sick and I spent nights praying for their good health. There was time when I used to cry whole night after visiting doctors.
Whenever I buy toys for them she says they are not up to their standards!!!.
(sorry for spelling or other mistakes…i am writing from work!!)
