YOURSELF - Escape and being L A Z Y

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perpetually, in life, some of us may come across a heavily condensed load of things to do, all at the same time, from interpersonal relations to organized living, to advancing career, to fulfilling one’s cherished plans to working with stablizing one’s finances etc. these glaring deadends of cluttered multiplex issues render one to exactly falling back in one’s chair, since there is sjust so much to do in such a short while.

if you would like to share, how do you deal with this personal challenge of clearly sorting your priorities and then managing them well to avoid losing time and not be lazy in yourself.

Best,
Dushwari

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One should concentrate on "one duty at a time" and remove everything else from his mind which might distract him.

Enjoy making positve efforts with positive thinking, no matter what one comes across in life.

A dua which has done wonders for me in alot of such situations, after reciting it I have been able to do things which I previously considered to be beyond my capability.

" O' Allah! nothing is difficult which you make easy for me, and when you want you make every difficult thing easier "

After you recite it, Allah would create circumstances that you would be able to perform your duty well with ease.

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dush.. u r so brilliant .. i struggle every day with all these challenges… thinking .. i must be the only person on this planet, trying to juggle all this .

but i keep a minder .. make notes and get them done without procrastination.. i hv been able to come out of debts as that was my goal..

i give myself credit after achieving a goal and that satisfaction keeps me going..

i manage mytime in a funny cartoon like way.. For example in the kitchen . i spend abt two hours .. cooking, clearing out the refrigerator, telling stories to my kids , washing dishes, making lists of more to dos, sometimes billing and checking kids homework.. all simoultaneously.. it IS possible, atleast for women/ multitaskers it is..

at work.. i finish all my home projects planning.. reaserching.. comparing prices..etc.. i do all my billing ONCE a month. so its less of a headace.. these days u can schedule payments online for anyday of the month. .so why do it twice

its a constant making lists and crossing out whats done.. damn i wanna move to Marakesh

:hinna:

~~~***~ Congrats meetnauman ~~~***~
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Dua does wonders for sure

~~~***~ Congrats meetnauman ~~~***~
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Can you please share the dua in Arabic please? or Maybe tell us where we can find it?

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could u please share the name of the dua. i would really appreciate it. thanks a lot.

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Here it is in arabic with more information

Click:

http://www.makedua.com/display_dua.php?sectionid=40

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if possible could you tell me where in the quran is it from or its name because i can't really read it that clearly from that website. thank you very much.

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^ I read it in Isme-e-Azam, the dua is probably taken from a hadith, and is very popular among muslim scholars for difficult situations. Alot of good students read it during exams.

Anas reported that the Prophet, peace be upon him, used to supplicate,

“O Allah, there is no ease except what You make easy, and you alone can turn a difficulty into ease.”

(Ibn As-sinni)

Source: Fiqh-us-Sunnah, Volume 4, #131

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try not to be superhuman and try to do it all. prioritize, delegate, delay. Not getting it all done aint gonna kill ya

as I tell begum,if we have had busy days at work and getting ready for some conference or are not well or have other things to do, lets order in and not worry about cooking. or if the floor needs cleaning but both of us have stuff to do, then the floor does not get cleaned. it will get cleaned in a day or two.

as far as work goes, unless I have been laming around, if it is too much, i just go to the boss and say hey listen this is what I need to get done, tis is my assessment of time and resources, this is what I have, I am going to push this one out, etc, and have him react. Never really had a problem with it.

In cases where I have tons fo work because I was laming and thought I had free time but other stuff came up, well as they say in mexico...the nights are long and coffee is cheap :D

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STP, thanks for the duaa

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As Fraudia said in the 10th post, try to prioratize. If you ever read the book "7 habits of highly effective people", author talks about this quadrant about important, not imprtant, urgent, not urgent cateogaries.

I suggest at least read that chapter of the book. It would really help

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thanks for the wonderful discussion and brother STP, thanks for sharing dua.
sometimes identifying truly with a situation, and taking in all of its affect on the self makes it possible to reorient the direction of all of the quicksand like pit of pulls which one might be feeling intensely, when things have gone on for long.
fatigue and tiredness, a vague sense of dragging the routines in an inefficient manner, sometimes need for the individual to step back, pause and think, just what am i doing, & where it is leading me to.
anything from dead lines at work, in school or with family engagements can stifle the personal well being of an individual.
some fall pray to being lazy, others exhaust themselves either in denial or via delays in taking any initiative.
still others, start out multiple tasks at the same time and never get to finish any.
we all feel this, and we all know how painful the loss of time, wasted resources and a bad mood it can leave us with.
but, those who are able to see what works, and realize that they have to get their act together, will be able to reclaim control over their lives, at least for the factors that have to deal with the inner self.
when one is at peace with oneself, when one is comfortable in one's own skin, then, it becomes easier to relinquish, to let go - event, objects, things or people who are not the right fit for the effort used on securing / maintaining them.
living alone or living with a family of one's own is characterized by distinct pace of living.
former involves the bills, the work load, and personal advancement, and the later includes family ties on top of the rest of the preoccupations.
rewarding oneself with a clean heart and a transparent conscience in doing one's best can enable oneself to view one's life in terms of the choices, and decisions that can teach over time, that had things been done differently - what a difference it would have made.
by reflecting on one's actions and being able to gracefully own up to one's weaknesses, there is a better chance that on will change for good out of one's own accord.
often a personal sense of high energy, a confident zealous mind can procure itself nothing but tensions, of others, unnecessary burdens of others, at the wrong times, and for the wrong people.
in order to remain true to oneself, and have a personality which is able to navigate right from wrong, any given person who is set to not act lazy, will realize that how enduring a time frame planning can be. it's benefit include a sense of end goal, which then drives the implementation in real life.
and together with something to keep oneself busy with, a person who is not lazy or attempts to avoid being lazy, keeps own load lighter to be able to share one's strength for better endeavors.
sometimes, it is best to simply focus on one's behavior which is self debilitating.
after all the hard work is done, prayer of course is that icing on the cake of strife which makes it graceful and appeal to Allah swt can stand out to be deserving.
best,
Dushwari