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Don't get too hung up on types. Sometimes something clicks with someone who you never thought you'd like.
At this point it seems like the damage is done :(. I do make sure I try to connect with other people too. The failure rate is making me wonder if I am doomed.
Thinking more about it, I think a person with average smarts, life experience and maturity might work in place of an intellectual. Maybe even work better.
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Don’t worry too much. Everyone has a type until reality comes along :halo:
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You mean like this ‘geeky’ guy?
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Dang!!!..so in reality I can’t have Angelina Jolie…I hate reality…okay got to go flip burgers while I dream of her..
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I don't think there's anything wrong with having a type, provided that you don't limit yourself and exclude all others who don't fall into that type. It's quite normal to like something specific or like something more than something else. People only begin having issues when they limit themselves to their type and are not open to anything else.
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perhaps uzair can post his pic too.
The moment someone has to enter your life, he will. Someday doing your babys diaper, you would recal your type, chuckle to yourself and tell your husband can you pass over the new diaper and will move on.
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Knowing the kind of person I am, I wanted someone tolerant, with moderate yet flexible views and good values. Had to be Pakistani and Muslim as well. If he can’t agree with my views, he should respect it. These are the things I didn’t want to compromise on, and I’ve not met many guys, like that unfortunately. Many people living in the West look towards Pakistan to get their sons married, there is this fear of God knows what Pakistani girls born and bred in the West are going to be like!
Also, going through the arrange marriage system scares me. You pay an unknown aunty to find you a match and you have to decide how you like the guy and his family in a few meetings? They’re going to act their best, how do I know? How can a person judge me over a cup of coffee? And if they’re going to do that, I don’t want to be married to such a superficial person.
Anyway, I did find my “type” but the problem doesn’t end here. He lives in Pakistan (I don’t) and belongs to a different ethnic group. We are friends but my parents don’t know him. I talked to my parents, they said no without even meeting him! 
If one thing works out, something else is sure to get screwed up.
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lol I don't get why people have types. I have types in terms of personality but not what they look like. Everyone is different ... as long as they look attractive to me, its fine
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Not necessarily types, maybe the word isn't appropriate but people sure look for something in their partner.
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lol I don't get why people have types. I have types in terms of personality but not what they look like. Everyone is different ... as long as they look attractive to me, its fine
Up until a few hours before I made this thread, I thought 'type' is physical. But after conversations with a few friends about their types, it appears that the reason why we like certain physical types is how we translate them into what the person's personality might be like. Same thing as our unconscious bias of taking beauty to mean good. Unless you really are specifically going for specific features; for example a good friend of mine goes gaga over wrists.
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Up until a few hours before I made this thread, I thought 'type' is physical. But after conversations with a few friends about their types, it appears that the reason why we like certain physical types is how we translate them into what the person's personality might be like. Same thing as our unconscious bias of taking beauty to mean good. Unless you really are specifically going for specific features; for example a good friend of mine goes gaga over wrists.
you won't have any problem finding your type .. as you said you are looking for "tall, geeky intelligent' = most of the desis are programmers ... u just need to find a tall one .. geeky and intelligent usually follows ... but be careful fob also follows if you have a pref
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perhaps uzair can post his pic too.
The moment someone has to enter your life, he will. Someday doing your babys diaper, you would recal your type, chuckle to yourself and tell your husband can you pass over the new diaper and will move on.
Usually when women say they like "geeky guys", what they really mean is they like conventionally hot guys who wear glasses. Absolutely nothing wrong with that. I just wouldnt like real geeky guys being mislead about womens preferences.
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keep knocking on doors...i'm sure u'll get to the right door!
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lol I don't get why people have types. I have types in terms of personality but not what they look like.** Everyone is different ... as long as they look attractive to me, its fine**
You don't have any preferences when it comes to appearance?
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You don't have any preferences when it comes to appearance?
Preference if you wanna say like she should have a very fair color, tall, skinny, black hair ... no. I have seen a lot of women with different complexions, body habitus - some really skinny, some average, some on the curvy end and I liked them all. There is not one thing I can pin point in a girl that I like about them. Its their overall appearance and how they present themselves which makes them attractive to me and as long as I am attracted to them, it good for me lol.
Couple of months ago I showed my sis a picture of a my friend who is a girl on fb that I was attracted to. My sis said how terrible looking she was ... she said she was really anorexic skinny, her nose is weird and stuff and she said how can I be attracted to her?. And if you ask a general population, they would probably say something like my sister but to me she was 10 !!! what can I do?
There is another girl in my class who is blonde, skinny, pretty eyes - she is a perfect model girl you can call her and she is really nice to me but I don't find her attractive. Is there something wrong with me?
But its not to say that I love ugly betty fat girls ..
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^
Its just that men are generally a lot more forgiving to women on their looks than vice versa. Theres nothing wrong with you. Even the so called 'ugly betty fat girls' get guys a plenty.
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anorexic. skinny, weird nose. Interesting. glad her white eyeball color didnt get noticed
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Up until a few hours before I made this thread, I thought 'type' is physical. But after conversations with a few friends about their types, it appears that the reason why we like certain physical types is how we translate them into what the person's personality might be like. Same thing as our unconscious bias of taking beauty to mean good. Unless you really are specifically going for specific features; for example a good friend of mine goes gaga over wrists.
Type casting is such a russian roulette especially in Pakistani setting, women here often fall for the wrong type, but dating and living together they can decide that this really wasn't their type, trying to judge a personality merely by looks is so immature, I got type casted when my family took me to Pakistan for the rishta parades and I got so much rejection, I am very muscular and broad and the personality type associated with that is Ghundas, dense, aggressive, intimidating, etc. I am none of those, I think I have a fairly high intellect and I am kind, caring, loving and gentle. I clean the house, cook on a regular basis and play with my little ones and have seen some really skinny and geeky guys getting arrested for family violence, a lot of skinny guys might not be safe bet, insecurities can be disastrous in a relationship, look for a confident guy, because confident guys who feel secure about themselves make good husbands and fathers.
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^That’s so strange, isn’t it.. My mum used to say something similar about my husband..
Some elders also have that weird idea about very fair girls having a good character or looking ‘decent’ 
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Plus I am fairly open about my feelings and we don’t really accept frankness, we went to see this Pakistani Doctor, it was during sectarian violence, we had to scale a wall of blood and fire to get to this girls house, during the interview process I was asked the question. “So if you are an Engineer, why do you wan’t to marry a Doctor. " my reponse was, “Sir I am not looking for a Doctor, I am looking for Girl to Marry.” they did not like the answer and I was rejected on the spot. One of the gentlest friend I have is from British decent. 6-7” 280 lbs and is an amazing cook also, treats his gal very nicely, was married to a fairly unattractive short asian girl, she cheated on him and ran off with a much younger guy, so the notion that unattractive people will show fidelity does not hold true either.