Not sure how you guys deal with these sort of things. I met this wonderful girl, and she’s married to a guy who…well he’s not THAT bad to hang out with, but sometimes, he just says things without thinking…
And so I haven’t invited the two of them out again. I figured I’d meet up with the girl sometime on her own, and they’ve made attempts to get in touch, but each time I go out, I’m like…urgh, I dont want to subject my group of friends to that guy.
Anyhoo, I feel bad for the girl. She’s been complaining that she hasn’t been able to make very many friends here, and I’m beginning to suspect it might be her husband.
Have you guys had such scenarios?
It makes me think like 2-3 x each time I meet a guy…I have to now add on the question of “Can I take him to a party with me, or do I need to hide him in a closet?”
I met this wonderful girl, and she's married to a guy
Love the girl, hate her husband/bf. We have all been there. Hockey has a goalie, doesn't mean you can't score. You like her, you take her. It's a woman eat man world, show him who has the bigger teeth.
Ugh, I hate couples who are like that, I know some couples who are lots of fun to hang out with, but not all couples are like that...some can meet their friends alone without their marriage being questioned :o
Urghh has happened with me too.My good friend from college is married to this really immature guy with a huge ego. He says the most annoying, offensive things and is a pain to hang out with. Sadly, it had reached a point where we had to cut back on the time spent with them. I feel bad about the distance this has created between me and my friend, but there was no other way.
Just go well prepared ... And prepare your circle of friends as well. Then at least you can all play dumb when they meet up with you. Just tell them she is your friend but she has baggage that at least would be entertaining for you guys ... that way all are happy. I don't think you'll be judged for having a friend whose hubby is weird. Sometimes we can't fully control the outcome of events, but we can sure prepare for the worst.
How lucky. I wish to be like him. People thinking twice before inviting him to mix gatherings. A blessing in disguise. How my wife wishes I were like that. (Hopefully I already am like that, or would become like that one day, inshaAllah)
It makes me think like 2-3 x each time I meet a guy...I have to now add on the question of "Can I take him to a party with me, or do I need to hide him in a closet?"
Fortunately (?), I am never much concerned with what "other" people are going to say about anyone at all as long as i am comfortable with the person. Nobody is perfect and NOBODY is capable of making everyone happy so you might as well bother about if he/she makes you happy. Isn't that what really should matter? And if the guy/girl has such behavioral issues, then i am sure you would not select them for yourself irrespective of whether you plan to take them out with your bunch of friends or not. And if you still do, that means they have some other qualities which outweigh the bad ones.
So the key is to make your decisions wisely by having your priorities in check :).
I've noticed some couples are like this one, one of them doesn't want to make an effort to socialise etc with their partner's friends for one reason or another. It's really up to the partner how they want to handle this, not you. You shouldnt have to apologise or 'prepare' your friends etc for somebody else's behaviour. if someone is not willing to make an effort, then why should you?
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he just says things without thinking...
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Wives usually would feel more offended if their husband 'watches' things without thinking, in a *mixed *gathering. What to do about such cases, who drive away their own wives by looking at others with lalchai hui nazar...
p.s. No, this post has no relation with my previous post, if you are trying to co-relate them.
so how can one deal with a person who's too shy and reserved and is considered boring company ? Would one be afraid to take him to the party or hide in the closet too
Life isnt perfect. A woman's group of friends might not appeal to her husband and likewise for the husband to be on good terms with her group of friends.
yes, my friend married a right pervert. The way he would stare and make ajeeb comments, like you have beautfiul feet, nice toes....ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww
anyway i told her once that i didnt like him, and she told me to get lost, nadz u think every bloke fancies you, dont u,.......
so how can one deal with a person who's too shy and reserved and is considered boring company ? Would one be afraid to take him to the party or hide in the closet too
Life isnt perfect. A woman's group of friends might not appeal to her husband and likewise for the husband to be on good terms with her group of friends.
people think my husband is boringcompany, because hes shy and reserved and doesnt talk unless asked a question.