How do you feel when your spouse comments on or discusses your colleagues (their opposite sex). Well we do discuss our work and colleagues with our spouses ourselves, but does it sound alright if they comment on them? Like, a husband tells her wife that he likes her ABC colleague because she takes care of her (his wife). Shouldnt husbands reserve such expression of likeness for their wives’ colleagues to themselves? Or is it honest enough because they are simply sharing? And all that intention thingy… (you see it all depends on intentions, if intention is good etc :halo: )
I mean for myself, I would never comment on my husband’ s so and so colleague saying I like them or dont, I think it will mar the sense of distance I want to keep with the opposite gender. In the same way, I dont think either I will appreciate if my husband tells me, “mujhey ABC achi lagti hai. kyonke wo tumhara khyal rakhti hai”.
Please share how do you feel about it. Our work and family lives are different and I believe in having both of them at their individual place. Im fine if my colleagues and my husband are nice with each other, I mean respect each other because Im the middle person. But things more than that, how do you cope if you ever come across such a situation? Or is it just a matter of time and understanding? Once you built this trust in your spouse, whatever they say will match your comfort level?
I think that I would say the same. I have said many times to my husband when I like a friend of his because he takes care of him. My husband is in the army and is posted in a difficult area at the moment. Whenever he tells me that a particular colleague and he had dinner together, or that another facilitated his travel by helicopter instead of the convoy he would have had to take, I always mention my appreciation towards that colleague and encourage their friendship that way.
my colleagues are more than just people i work with. so i'm okay with my husband talking about how he finds them. after all, i make him hang out with us so he has the right to have an opinion. it's also good for me because he is never worried if i'm out with them, he knows i'm being taken care of.
I guess it is a way of showing that the husband cares for his wife because he finds it nice that the wifes' colleagues care for his wife. I know wives are usually not supposed to 'like' any other man other than the husband himself and expressing such likings in front of their husbands, while the husbands are supposed to be doing nothing wrong if they pass an appreciation comment for any other woman. As far as the wife knows that there is nothing going on in the mind of the husband, its a not a big deal if the husband passes an appreciation comment for her colleague (or for any other woman).
dont see any thing wrong in doing that. That's how all men are and if your partner is not sharing his thoughts about your colleagues, dont take that he is not interested, he is probably hiding something from you :-)
Well but the way women are possessive about their husbands I thought maybe it should feel bad, but actually I agree there is nothing wrong if your spouse appreciates someone cares for you because in this way they want to tell us how much they actually care for us
I think trust is every thing. If you trust your life partner, you are always sure at heart nothing can take them away from you.
I wish he talked about his colleagues. He is welcome to discuss mine, actually he comes to my work sometimes and so he kinda knows them too and they recognize him. He never talks about his work, and he doesn't like talking about his friends, I hate that. He doesn't like me discussing his colleagues either.
Discussion is always good. Sharing is something which strengthens your relationship and absence of it makes it hollow. But I still believe we should be discreet in the selection of our words as they may sometimes mislead the person regarding what we mean actually. Like if I keep on appreciating a colleague of my husband Im afraid it might sound like obsession and will give my husband all rights to be alarmed at.
If a husband is saying hey I like so and so, two things can be done. Either take it at face values ie he likes what he/she is doing. End of story. Or you can see what is about that other person that they like and then see if you can improve yourself in that manner.
In the end, I’d rather have my husband tell me what’s happening at his work, however minute. I believe it forms a stronger relationship. Also, if he’s got a crush on someone, then I’d know if he doesn’t talk about her
