Your son has impregnated a girl outside marriage

[uzair1]

Re: Your son has impregnated a girl outside marriage

@Barfii

Firstly, I’d slap him silly and then I’d blame myself and wonder where I went wrong.

Secondlly, I would tell him to give me the phone number of the girl he impregnanted and ask her what she wanted/expected from my son. Were they in a relationship (bf/gf)? Were they in love? Did they have intentions of getting married? Is she planning on keeping the baby? Does she want to marry my son?

If they agreed to marry, then I would welcome her into my home and make sure that my son fulfilled his responsibilities as a father to the child and as a husband to her. If he didnt want to marry her, but agreed to support her financially, then I would make sure he kept his promise.

If he disagreed with even doing the least to provide for her financially, then he can leave my house because I do not want such a selfish and irresponsible person living under my roof!!

No way would my son get away scot-free!! All too often the woman pays the price, as it took two of them to make this baby, he needs to pay his dues too!!

In both of your replies, why is it all about what the girl expected from the guy? whether she expected marriage, whether she was in love with him.. why is it about ‘expectations’ in the first place? why isnt it about the understanding b/w the two regarding what they want from the ‘relationship’ ?

why would you slap your son silly, but not your daughter? do you consider men to be morally superior? why do expect a higher degree of judgement from a young man than a young woman ?