So you are a girl/woman. You were a teen a while ago. You opened a FB , MySpace , hi5 account and wrote whatever was on your mind about actors , athletes, millionaires etc etc. You wrote some stuff which you yourself find weired now as you have matured somewhat.
You are at an age when your parents are getting proposals for your marriage. Would it have some negative impact on the process if the boy or his parents googled you and found that weired stuff about you by you ?
Should you remove that stuff , close that account ? why ? It is a big part of what you are now. It is all part of growing up , it is learning process through which we all go through.
Share your thoughts.
Boys are free to give their opinion too.
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It depends how old the account is .. if its 3-4 or more years old and was not updated since then and the person was in late teens, early 20's .. I wont give a damn .. unless the person is talking about her real life physical relationships or what not
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ahahahah why would they google you lmao roflmao roflmaooo!
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yea, agree with TLK...if its obiviously a 'dead' account, like it hasnt been updated for several or more years, then i wouldnt give it any importance. HOWEVER...regardless of the age of the account, i would say you have something to worry about if you had some incriminating things posted, like suggestive or improper posts, bad pics of you and guys etc that sort of thing. of course the person looking should be able to decipher ''bad/haram/distasteful'' from ''good/innocent/adolescent''...like theres a difference between you posing in front of your school in a casual pic with guy friends...as opposed to you in a pic with guys at the beach, or etc...
i hope you get what im saying.
ahahahah why would they google you lmao roflmao roflmaooo!
Google is an amazing tool! While it might sound sort of stalkeresque, you wouldn't believe the stuff you can find out about prospectives on the internet - I myself have made use of it a time or two ;)
Back to the orginal question, never ever put something up on the internet that may come back to haunt you. Don't know if you're aware, a lot of multinationals will look you up on social networking sites to get an idea about the person you are before they hire you. So it's not surprising if an interested family does the same. A lot of us do things when we're young that's immature - that's okay so long as the family is not uber-conservative/uptight. But, there is a difference between immature actions and inappropriate actions which may definitely came back and bite you...
But, there is a difference between immature actions and inappropriate actions which may definitely came back and bite you...
exactly. great point.
If anyone feels it is going to cause some sort of big problem then just close those accounts.
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You are Paranoid! Dont you know Pakis can't use the PC :)
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if you haven't used the account for a while and no intentions or interest in using it anymore then u might as well delete it. And to think of it past does have an impact on pplz present or future and the potential inlaws or hubby has full right to know of it, since they will be considering u for future. I wouldn't mind if I see something weird or immature unless its really innapropriate. I know this girl who got rejected by her boyfriend, cause she had pics of her senior year in hs at the beach in a two piece sitting on some guy's shoulders. I mean she was obviously a teenager and immature, and they boy very well knew of it but when it came to getting married he backed off. Desi men have a very dif mentality you know. hope you understand.
You are Paranoid! Dont you know Pakis can't use the PC :)
and i suppose all Lallu, mohammeds are outscourcing their Comp sci homework to the Chinese?
:)
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hamaray baankpan kay zamanay main to FB ka koi naam o nishan hi maujood nahi that.
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lol it would be worse if they searched some old posts of mine from different message boards.
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I wasn't a stupid teenager and I would expect the same from the person I am going to marry. Not all teenagers do and say stupid/immature/retarded/sexually promiscuous things.
If hypothetically speaking, I was getting an arranged marriage and did a reference check on a potential rishta and I found incriminating stuff on the internet....I would reject it. I have no tolerance for stupidity....even in teenagers.
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I would get rid of all info that would lead to them having any wrong thoughts of me. Paki parents can be very judgemental. Id rather have the opportunity to show them who i am my self rather then them coming up with their own theories. This thread made me do a google check on myself 
i came out clean 
not that i suppose i have anything to hide =D
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I dont understand how writing stuff about movie stars and all that would have to do with your married life. Lets say you wrote blogs about actors, athletes and millionaires...what is the big deal?
If the person was a child, why is that so huge it would impact their married life? Im thinking people are reading way too much into this stuff and thinking its some sort of criteria for good character.
Its not, its youth and it needs to be looked at that way.
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^ it should be, but alot of people dont. We can change ourselves but not the mentality of others. Until then its probably safer to go with the flow and not let them read into anything that may be slightly misleading. For example, facebook.. if some prospective MIL's saw pix of u with guys even though its innocent they will be prone to think kaisi lardki he? I suppose writing and reviewing probably isn't so bad.
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not learning from your mistakes is worst than having a bad past.
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Writing stuff on facebook, myspace and whatnot when you were 17 years old and you're 25...should it be held against you?
If it was, I would consider the family very backward and not consider THEM after that.