Re: your parents in old people homes??
well as long as you do all that is in your ability its ok. If you tried your best to look after your parents and due to the care they require you have to send them to an old peoples home then fair enough but i tell you what, old people homes DO NOT take care of your parents the way you would.
If you have re-arranged your finances and can still not cope then i guess as a last resort you may send your parents but hopefully the need will not arise.