When it comes to being a parent…will you (or do you) completely emulate your own parents in the way they brought you up? or are there some things you’d do differently?
Re: Your parents and parenting
I think my parents did a pretty good job raising me. I know when I was a kid I wrote down all the things I would NOT do to my kids if my parents did something I didn't like hehe. But I think it really was for the better. If there is one thing I would change, it's being more firm about things like bedtime and nutrition (we were fussy eaters), but that's just because of culture/generation differences.
Oh one thing I would not do is give my kids computer privacy. I was part of the earlier generation of slow dialup that charges by the minute during my mid/high school years, but my younger sibs had all their 24 hr high speed connections. I know they're not doing anything bad, but the internet is a vice and can be totally addicting whether its MMORPGs or youtube or just browsing. Case in point- being on GS for an hr when I'm supposed to be working on a paper...
Re: Your parents and parenting
Honestly? I'll want to do most of the things differently. My father was too strict and my mother was too lenient, there was a huge communication gap between my father and us, and there were many other things that they should or shouldn't have done as parents....reason being I don't want to end up like them...less said is better I guess. :-(
Re: Your parents and parenting
Unfortunately we have a major major communication issue in our family ... I will definitely try to do things very differently. however the good thing that I wont change on is the way religious knowledge has been passed on to us ... thats something very positive and i will inshallah continue the tactics my parents used.
Re: Your parents and parenting
I think my parents did a pretty good job, better than most of my friends' parents. They trained us properly in everything values, morals, education, religion and once we were properly equipped, they let us make our own decisions. WE chose our own careers and our own spouses, ofcourse with their guidance and their dua'in, but alhamdolillah all four of us are doing well.
One thing I fail to emulate is that my parents never hit us and very rarely shouted at us. I tend to lose my patience too often and have hit my 3 yrs old a billion times.. and he's only 3!! I feel like such a bad mommy... ohh I'm just rambling now :)
Re: Your parents and parenting
I would rather choose the good part only and learn from my parents mistakes.
Re: Your parents and parenting
i would do it completely differently, and not treat my kids how i was bought up.