Just curious about how teh dynamics are in most families… How involved are your parents in you/your friends lives? As kids? As adults? do they meet them, inquire about them or do they not know/care/interfere?
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Just curious about how teh dynamics are in most families... How involved are your parents in you/your friends lives? As kids? As adults? do they meet them, inquire about them or do they not know/care/interfere?
They were highly involved until I was in 10th grade. Later... they were quite sure of my company :)
Now, only if I discuss.... else not!!
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not really, i also don't like to divulge details which waste mental energy.
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As a child I interacted with "family friends" and a limited number of neighbourhood kids that my parents knew. They cared and interfered.
As a teenager my parents knew most of the friends that I was hanging around. They were frequent visitors in our home and ammi was very well acquainted with them. Again, they cared and interfered when necessary.
As an adult, some friends do meet with my extended family but most are restricted to personal friendships who interact with my spouse and child. My extended family still cares but they do not interfere.
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My friends knew my mom but she kept a damn snoopy check on us. I tried keeping her away but i failed. In college she knew my friends and approved of them and was actually nice to them.
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Since I was in middle school, my friends have been friends with my mom as well. And my dad's always been the "cool" uncle to the desi girls. But all my non-desi friends hadn't even met him... simply cuz i was afraid of him embarrassing me LOL.
Now it's pretty much teh same situ. Mom is friends with my friends - gives advice and what not. And dad is just there. Don't interfere or ask questions.
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My parents never cared and to this day they have they're own circle and I have my own. The age gap is so much, they are def. not interested in what my friends and I talk about/do.
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My parents and family know my best buddies. Other than that..they don't care. But they did ask.."who is that" when i formed friendship.
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My dad doesn't really care. But my mom knows about all my close friends. She has met some but not all. I sometimes browse my facebook in front of my parents (on the big computer-tv screen in the family room). I show them recent pictures of my family friends, cousins, or people who might be of interest to them. I think it builds trust and friendship. They know who I'm hanging out with... familiarity breeds comfort... so the next time, I am going out with so and so, they have no reason to worry or become suspicious.
It's hard for parents not to take interest in their children's social circle, but it's never to the point of being intrusive. It helps in conflict situations too...if I'm having a spat with one of my besties, I confide in my mom and she tends to give really good advice.
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My parents knows my friends since most of them are a big part of my life.
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my Mother knows all my friends. she has met 80% of my friends and has no issue with any of that them. until grade 8 or 9 when i an d my friends made any outing programme she used to double check with the moms of my friends. later up till now she only asks which group of friends i am hanging with. shes never interested in what we talk about and does not interfere at all.
my father on the other hand doesn't know or met many of my friends neither is bothered about it.
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My mum knows most of my friends by name and has met a few of them. Other than that, they are not much involved.