How would you feel if you are told by your parents to do this or that with your child. If you are treated as a kid in raising your own child!
Since i live with my parents, my mother keeps on telling me what to do with my baby, its irritating me, as in i want to have some space in being a parent myself, and raising my child the way i want. But it seems i cant get the message across.
Am i normal in feeling this way or is it ok if grandma interfered all the time?
please advise!
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I would hate it if my parents (or anyone else for that matter) interfered all the time! Of course suggestions and tips are always welcome, but constant interference is not. Parents need to learn to let go and realize when their kids are old enough to handle their own lives.
I'd still try to keep calm though.. you wouldn't want to hurt grandma's feelings. I mean, in her mind, she's just trying to help. Let her tell you what she thinks, take it as a suggestion, and then do what you guys think is right.
I have a one rule for these kind of situations "suno sab ki karo apni" you don't need to hurt your parents but do what you think is best for your child. I know it becomes irritating sometimes but what can we do.
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grandparents tend to do this a lot. aik kaan se suno dosray se nikaal do. ya kabhi sun lo kabhi janay do.
ufff sub ko khush kerna kitna mushkil hai.
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My mom stayed with me for 2 months when I had my daughter and then I lived with my mother-in-law for 4 months and honestly, their advice helped me a lot. Some things irritated me, but like "UZ" said, I listened to them and said "jee jee" and then did whatever I felt was appropriate.
You should chill and let her give advice, don't hurt her by rejecting her efforts. My mom even told me a couple of months ago that she liked the fact that I listened to her and followed her advice and was sad that my other sister told her she doesn't agree with her advice.
So I would suggest just listening to her and then doing whatever you feel is right. Also, do keep an open mind.... she might be giving you some sound advice too, she is experienced after all :).
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it's very annoying when people give muft mushwaray and think their style is the best and others should follow them blindly.
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Edit, alright, I read that wrong, never mind.
Just listen, it can be irritating. In one ear, out the other.
I have a one rule for these kind of situations "suno sab ki karo apni" you don't need to hurt your parents but do what you think is best for your child. I know it becomes irritating sometimes but what can we do.
well said :)