So how are you being treated by your respective ammi’s when some guests are over. How does she communicate with you?
My mom does her work very quickly, briskly would be the right word. She doesn’t procastinate like us and she is usually done with all her houslehold and outdoor chores before we even know anything…maybe 'cuz she is the father and the mother…she plays that dual role…
So, when some one comes to our place at a very short notice, my mom mashAllah amazes us and manages everything so well in that limited time. I on the other hand…am a bit slow(blame my genes for that* ) nonethless I do help her and if I am given a task I also try to do my level best
But when someone is over, how do u communicate with her and how she reciprocates? Well my mom just stares at me… or whatever she says … it seems she is a bit angry…I mean she can say ’ Min, plz bring the plates or the spoons( she says though) but most of the times she has this stern expression when I fail to perform some task
So why are we so uptight about things…i know i know we ought to make the place as comfortable for the guests as possible but…maybe I dont have any responsibilities as such thats why i cant fathom what its like to be in her shoes. But when both of us are in the kitchen, someone needs to look up at our expressions I am constantly being scolded or been forced to do something…that sure ends up in heated arguments too attimes…never in front of others though
Anyhow, how do deal with any such situation in your family..
Yaar, always remember that the kitchen is your mom's domain in your house. You never mess with the kitchen. In fact, if anything you try and learn the tricks of the trade, because when you move on with your own home and your life away from parents, you'd be shocked how much you replicate your moms actions when you are in the kitchen.
My mom is also like your Ami. She makes everything look so easy and so routine in the kitchen but when I am doing my thing, obviously I take my time.
So, my advice is that less arguments and more learning and accepting. It's their territory and they are the queens of the kitchen. Nothing we can all do about that :)
the death stares, the mutter under the breath, the discreet shoving and me standing there like nothings wrong :) i just smile actually or try to pretend shes saying nice things to me..
she'll forget abotu it as soon as the guests leave and two days later she'll remember how nakami u r as a daughter.. my life
minni .. ha ha .. those stares.. i remember those stares.. but its been ages my ma done that.. till recently she just used to gently ask me to bring 'chai biscuit wagera' which usuall y means chai, biscuit, samosay, jalebi, kheer and wutever is available in store for them ... it was so embarassing at first.. but then i got dheeter :D
ur sooo right yaar…my mum ‘used’ to look at me as well…but that when i was 13……now a days…i control the guests…:)…i cook and serve and my sis…and my mum gets to relax with mehmaan and have a wodnerful caht…we serve from khana to desert to tea and we always get a compliment at the end like ‘kitni piyari buchiyaan hei aapki Parveen…there such good help to ui hei na?’…and we’re like …
even if i do need to ask my mum summit i do it right upfront in front of mehmaan…and they dont seem to mind as a matter of fact they like to see confidence in girls…right?
My mum is herself, and talks normally in front of guests..
im like her, most of the time she wont say it, but i handle all affairs and dramas when there r alot of guests.. so she just sits and enjoys..
you learn alot when you move out.. :p
…now a days…i control the guests…:)…i cook and serve and my sis…and my mum gets to relax with mehmaan and have a wodnerful caht…we serve from khana to desert to tea and we always get a compliment at the end like ‘kitni piyari buchiyaan hei aapki Parveen…there such good help to ui hei na?’…and we’re like 
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