Do you think that your insecurities affect your relationships?
Do you feel you are particularly defensive or closed off to a specific person because s/he makes you feel uglier, dumber, poorer, etc? Do you feel this way even if the other person does not consciously make you feel this way?
Or do you feel that you have any insecurities that inhibit you socially in a general sense, keeping you from going out and meeting with people? Are there personal experiences that have led you to prefer keeping to yourself due to your insecurities?
In terms of one's faith, yes, sometimes naturally one does feel insecure to be in the company of a certain individual/group. Not because of the risk of ruining one's own reputation, but because of the fear of getting into a situation that leads to violation of one's belief system & rights of people for whom we are responsible. It is better to avoid the fire place when one has a fear that getting in a certain range of it would cause one spark to fall on his/her clothes.
Risks are worth it only when taken in fulfilling the demands of one's faith/duties/responsibilites and not vice versa. Faith covers everything because it places every thing/relationship in its right place, rest are trivial matters.
Do you think that your insecurities affect your relationships?
Do you feel you are particularly defensive or closed off to a specific person because s/he makes you feel uglier, dumber, poorer, etc? Do you feel this way even if the other person does not consciously make you feel this way?
Or do you feel that you have any insecurities that inhibit you socially in a general sense, keeping you from going out and meeting with people? Are there personal experiences that have led you to prefer keeping to yourself due to your insecurities?
Insecurities to a certain degree are common and normal. Everyone has things they don't like about themselves or are sensitive about.
If you meet someone or have someone in your life who likes to remind you of those insecurities quite often...then that person is not a friend. I've run into a few characters like that and have found that usually the issue is that they have so many of their own problems...they'd rather make someone else the focus.
I don't think insecurities should inhibit people because we're all flawed...we're human and you need to remember that. There's no such thing as a perfect person.
Before meeting the hubby, I didnt feel very good about myself.. which showed in the way I dressed and also the job I had. I was stuck in the same position, with not much of a salary for a good 5 or so years... And that was all because I didnt feel smart, didnt feel attactive etc. Also, I had a loser of a boss who made me feel like crap.
Also even now, there are certain people who are intelligent and have knack for making you feel like a dummy.. they make me feel horribly insecure to the point I dont voice my opinion. It's sad... but yes. Sometimes, people do it intentionally... put u down because "they think" they are encouraging you to seek and learn more... but instead, you feel like more of an idiot and think you are incapable of doing anything right.
They definitely affect one's behaviour in a relationship, or otherwise. I also want to say that sometimes people feel insecure because they try to compare themselves to others. A person has to be secure in their own skills and limitations to avoid insecurity brought on themselves.
For me personally, I was kind of awkward in elementary school. Then puberty happened. When I went to high school, girls began to show interest in me, excelling academically was no longer considered "nerdy" in the derogatory sense, and I also gained confidence because I was good at sports. Still, my personality was reserved because of my childhood, so I came off as snobby sometimes. I am careful not to appear cold when I meet people, but I still consider it a bit of a chore to approach strangers and make small talk.