your initial reaction when you come across a Divorced desi lady?

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Re: your initial reaction when you come across a Divorced desi lady?

@Reha

You guys would be surprised at the kind of things people say…you develop a thicker skin but not before being hurt a few times.

I once had someone say to me “you don’t look divorced”…which is very confusing because I am not sure what that means. What do divorced people look like? Sad? That comment struck me as very odd.

When you’re in the beginning stages…you expect those around you to be compassionate and understanding…especially women. But most are not.** I had one girl who was a VERY good friend of mine since college simply stop talking to me after I told her what happened. She was married. I never heard from her again after that conversation and I could tell something had changed. **

It taught me a lot about people and I realized how blessed I was to have my family, my best friends (two of which are married with kids) and the ability to get past this. It also taught me to stop being judgmental because you never know what the future will bring your way and you as a human being are not above anything or anyone.

So yeah, there are people out there who will treat you like you have the plague but its alright…I know something they don’t know

this is something i wanted to talk about actually, but was waiting for someone to point it out first

Is there any chance the married friend was cut off from your life when you initially got married and got busy with your life? Did you maybe feel that she felt cut off when u got married… and your divorce had nothing to do with it?

Ive had a few really good friends who cut me off during their engagement period, to the point i only saw their wedding pics to find out they were married… yet, when they got divorced they asked me why I cut them off… and i am to this day shocked at the accusation

I cant identify with the pain a divorcee goes through.. cant begin to imagine the amount of chitter chatter they must have to face… and i applaud all those who have kept their head held up high.. but id just like to point out, and i may have done this before too, that married friends dont necessarily cut their divorced friend off, it may very well be the other way around.

And yes, you are all right to state that as someone going through all the pain and grief… a friend should be there regardless. Truth is, sometimes we are cut off already, we are not aware of the current situation.

Just my 0.2 cents worth of banter