Your husband thinks you aren't intelligent enough?

[TheNoodle]

Re: Your husband thinks you aren’t intelligent enough?

@Southie

Just learn something new each day. Ask yourself what fields interest you - could be sports, arts, literature, history, politics, science whatever.

read up on your field of interest. Travel (if yyou can). Go to museums. Develop a good circle of friends. And try to understand your husband is not oing this deliberately - some of it could be your insecurities, esp considering your mother’s being taken for granted.

@mirage

lol well I kinda agree. I guess husbands do this to please themselves. to them for this though. I wouldnt really bother if my husband thinks this way. Any thing to boost his confidence and elf esteem.

Tackle it stratigically, if you dont want this happen with you. Because, you are right when you say that it might have long term implications in the future.

@STA

if he is tech expert, you can find your area of interest for example cooking/photography/gardening/etc and then ask question from him.

he will say he does not know it then you can repeat his own words “hunh! okay so you don’t know about that either.” I hope, he will never do it again with you.

masla hal

@NomiCA

you can show off about your knowledge of cullinary arts and designer clothes and kapray shapray and paanday teenday…know imsayng??

@YouKnowWho

Show off your knowledge but dont try to sound too smart. Guys can call it when they see a smart or intelligent wanna be!

@Paheli00

So what things are YOU an “expert” on? Are you able to keep up on conversations regarding current events? What topics does your husband bring up specifically where you lack knowledge?

Well…you should be doing that anyway…no? Do you work? Are you a student? What do you all day that occupies your time? My personal belief is that if you don’t want to be treated like an idiot…then don’t act like one. And yes, part of coming across as being intelligent is “keeping up” with what’s going on in the world…constantly reading/educating yourself and working on your ablility to analyze situations/topics.

Focus on YOUR interests and become experts on those…however, if your husband has certain topics/hobbies that he likes to talk about…it certainly won’t hurt you to learn more about them so you can carry a converstion with him about those…not only does it show that you’re intelligent…but it also shows that you love him enough to learn about HIS interests too.

@Southie

Agree with Janwar - the 2 of you complete each other - so it is not a competition.

Also look at ot this way - your husband is a really sharp and smart person - there is so much you can learn and absorb by just listening to his views -

Curiosity is what makes a person interesting. Just keep your eyes and ears open - absorb like a sponge - what he says, what you ;earnn from reading, watching (good) shows etc.

Make learning fun (not a chore)

@Monk

dude don’t play his game. Look at you dadi, she wasn’t in contest with your dada.
dadi did things dada could not.
Let remember the basic once again.

If he was such smart ass why didn’t he do life him self, why did he bring you?
Because he needed you.
There is a thing called comfort, making a family raising a family. These things mean something.

Smart ass cell phones, message boards chatting thingies electronics don’t really mean any thing.
Find your domain in his world..

@inspiron

You need to find common interests to talk about.

AS paheli said shouldnt you be keeping uptodate with things anyway?

I highly doubt that any man is going to want to talk about last nights drama or so and so said that to so and so.

@psyah

Peace AbraCadabra

Spouses are supposed to complete one another … not compete with one another … so the idea is not to show that you are intelligent … but to show that you are WILLING.

Either willing to do

or

willing to learn about it

… Sometimes it is easy for us to say “I dunno how to do that or I dunno what that is” … instead of taking the opportunity to say “Hmm … that sounds interesting show me how you do it and I’ll take over from now on” or “I’ll read up about that”

If you don’t know something that he is asking you to help out in … then the right answer is to “offer to help him in another way” … Mostly when we say “I don’t know” it really means “I don’t care and I don’t want to know” and that is what leads to the expression on the face … not the idea that the other is ignorant but that they are unwilling to be able to do what is being asked from them …

Or you can just get implants.