Parents speak punjabi to each other, urdu and english to us kids, while my siblings and i speak english to each other since this is the language we’re most comfortable with. we kids could understand and speak the mother tongues though if push came to shove. i think it’s important to maintain one’s mother language. :rotato:
I saw this in a few households where parents mother tongue is Punjabi but they speak to their kids in urdu. How do they do it, wouldn't it seem kinda fake?
bingo :k: same situation here.. and yeh its very important to know your language.
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Danish... Thats a first!!
Are there many Pakistanis in Denmark?
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yea man trust me there are many in and around copenhagen!
with parents urdu mostly. with dad sometimes urdu sometimes english, with mum mostly urdu since she will kick our butts if we speak to her in english. with siblings a mix, some urdu some english.
well what i’ve seen is: some people speak punjabi at home but they speak urdu to other punjabis just to show off. this is so funny when they don’t know how to say a word in urdu, and they just say the punjabi word with urdu accent 
i speak punjabi.
and only a few people i’ve seen on this form speak punjabi at home, especially girls. most girls prefer urdu.
to punjabi people.
well ok, that peeves me too. That’s what my parents did to us and when I ask my mom why, she says.. urdu’s the national language, no? 
plus apparently it was cooler? punjabi’s so beautiful, but I’m just not used to speaking it. Although when my nani ammi was alive, I got plenty of practice.
it’s an english-urdu combo at home for me. or sometimes my mughlai urdu I torture my mom with.
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^--- adha ki haal ahain? (i think thats about right :-/ )
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aww 3 outta 4 for you :--)
Well your Hayaa-ness, I wouldn’t say it peeves me exactly, I love urdu and it would be even nicer if I understood it 
Just seems weird that parents would speak in a different language in their own homes. Us Punjabis are too patriotic.
no urdu..parents speak saraikee to us and we used to reply in urdu..now it has changed, as I speak saraikee with my mum, and with my father, I speak mostly in english. although, sometimes I struggle to speak in urdu now, since i haven't really kept up with it due to various reasons, nonetheless it's something i grew up speaking..
I don't know about Punjabi being a beautiful language but it sounds great when you hear it at it's source. Reminds me of when I was in some far flung pind visiting some relatives and this girl was cooking some lamb over a chulla. It looked a weird colour so I mentioned that and she said, "tussi fikar na karo paa ji, MaiN to inna mazedaar gosht pakaandi ay, tussi ungla chattday rai jaiNgay (big flash of gaNNa-fortified teeth).
needless to say, it tasted like the animal was still alive but being the guy I am, I choked it down enthusiastically :)
well like i said before, i speak punjabi at home. i do speak urdu but people can hear the punjabi accent in my urdu, and girls think it’s cute…lol…but it’s annoying to me cuz i want to be able to speak urdu perfectly as it is our national language…but i guess the accent can’t go away…it might if i speak it slowly but i speak fast, any language. if i keep speaking any language other than punjabi for a long time, my mouth kind of feels tired 
i don’t know how to say it :topic:
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yea man trust me there are many in and around copenhagen!
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What exactly do most of them do there? Bussines?
id speak Punjabi if I knew how to…
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I saw this in a few households where parents mother tongue is Punjabi but they speak to their kids in urdu. How do they do it, wouldn't it seem kinda fake?
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Xtreme, same here. My parents speak punjabi and urdu with eachother but to us kids they spoke and tought us only urdu. I cannot say a single sentence in punjabi though I can understand it. Fake !? no why it's not. I find it fine. I am glad I was tought urdu from the very beginning as urdu is such a fine language. As my mother was a teacher before marriage, she tought the kids in urdu and plus the type of society and friends we had, it was quite normal there.
Saadia :k:
hilarious story…
v siblingz tau alwayz in english but in front of mom n dad alwayz n alwayz urdu other wise 
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I saw this in a few households where parents mother tongue is Punjabi but they speak to their kids in urdu.
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Same here. All the elders speak Punjabi+Urdu among themselves but our generation has been taught to converse in Urdu only. The reason is the same as others have mentioned: its the national language.
This attitude of Punjabis is in sharp contrast with that of the people of other areas of Pakistan, who make it a point to stick to their mother tongue. It came as a big surprise to me when I went to Karachi for the first time and learnt that Sindhi is taught as a compulsory subject in the schools since early on.
I can see two reasons for that: Either us Punjabis are too patriotic and really feel that only Urdu deserves to be promoted as the only major language in Pakistan; or we are too eager to take the "paiNDoo chaap" off of ourselves which has been so often bestowed upon us :)
Though there has been a recent surge of interest among my siblings to learn better Punjabi ... to the point that even on MSN we chat in Punjabi. On the other hand, some family friends living in the UK who only know English and Punjabi marvel the general sweetness and tehzeeb found in this language and hope that some day they would be able to jump over from Punjabi to Urdu.
speaking of chatting in punjabi, i sometimes chat with my friend in punjabi but it’s really hard to spell punjabi as there are so many different ways of spelling it 
it’s easy to speak. punjabi people love to speak urdu as it’s our national language. punjabi is not taught in schools as a subject. i think i would teach my kids punjabi as well as urdu and english 
speaking punjabi infront of most urdu speaking people is just like speaking urdu or some other language before english people 
they really have a hard time understanding punjabi if someone like me is speaking really fast 
