Your friends...as a married couple and as single people

Lifestyle Relationships
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Do you have issues hanging out with non-Muslims? Do you feel its completely inappropriate?

What if when you’re married? Do you tend to just hang out with people like you?

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Re: Your friends...as a married couple and as single people

hanging out with non-muslims has simply no issues. Friendship has no religion. Humanity has its own importance.

i couldnt understand your second question.

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Re: Your friends...as a married couple and as single people

she is asking that if you are married, do you hang out with married people/couples only or do you also have single friends.

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Re: Your friends...as a married couple and as single people

again I will define, friendship has no conditions, if you have a company of good friends then no matter what religion they follow, what's their age, what's their status, single or married, seperated or divorced.. they look fat or slim, they have dark complexion or fair.. it has NO CONDITIONS at all.. they ARE your friends!!

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Re: Your friends...as a married couple and as single people

I have no phriends... :(

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Re: Your friends...as a married couple and as single people

& if you ask about the NEW friends you want to make.. so always remember, you don't MAKE friends.. you BECOME friends.. and you can become friend with anyone, anywhere.. from a public transport to a university library, a walk in the park to shopping mall...

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Re: Your friends...as a married couple and as single people

oh, i can understand..

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Re: Your friends...as a married couple and as single people

Seriously , like love friendship happens when you click with someone . Once that click happens you do not care if that friend is black or white , Muslim or Hindu , young or old .
I am sure no human being goes out on friend hunting based on a preconceived criteria.

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Re: Your friends...as a married couple and as single people

In my case, my friends are the people that

  1. I like to associate with (because I like them)..
  2. and I can associate with (because we have similar activities)..

now second condition depends upon your lifestyle and choices. If I dont go to music parties, instead like to go to Dars-e-Quran, my friends would by default be muslims only, even if I like to hang out with someone who is non-muslim.

I have couple of guys at work who play cricket and go to movies together. They are all nice guys and we kid around a lot at work, but my after work life belongs to my family. I love to spend time with wife and kids and plan all the activities around them. Obviously I cannot spend time with a bunch of guys so I cannot be part of that circle.

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Re: Your friends...as a married couple and as single people

First question, not at all. My friends are my friends because they understand me and with it, what my beliefs are. Resultantly, sometimes there are things they will do that I won't participate in. Yet they just get it, and I never have to explain myself. So not inappropriate at all, plus it helps we have a lot of other things that we have in common.

I don't know about the second, as most of my friends are not yet married, but I would hope even if we all get married at different times, we will still spend time with each other.

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Re: Your friends...as a married couple and as single people

i dont see why religion would impede on you being friends with someone or not.... (unless they are a part of some sort of devil-whorshipping cult like following!)

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Re: Your friends...as a married couple and as single people

some of my closest friends are non-muslim. they're so much more accepting and encouraging with everything. its' amazing!

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I love my fwends, whether they are brown, White, black or green and Martian like

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Re: Your friends...as a married couple and as single people

This, I agree with

furthermore, call me narrow-minded but especially when I have kids I would refrain from associating with nonmuslims at that close a level simply because I wouldnt want my kids (i.e. daughter) to grow up and want to marry the hindu/christian/jewish/budhist/etc kid they grew up with....so in that sense I would prefer muslim friends, though I wouldnt give a hoot whether they were desi or arab or white or whatever

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Re: Your friends...as a married couple and as single people

I think a difference in religion does impact a friendship somewhat. Non-muslims have a very different lifestyle. Their lives revolve around drinking. They go on wine and cheese tours, have lots of beer at bbqs and go out for "drinks" rather than dinner. At least in my experience it all revolves around alcohol. With that said, I do have some non-muslim friends that that drink and even some Muslim ones (not my place to tell them what to do). I just am more comfortable with people that share my value/belief system. There is more "understanding" between us and we would just have more in common.

I find its hard to be "close" friends with people who do things that I don't agree with morally (i.e. drink or casual date for fun). Again, I know some really great people who are non-muslims and do the above mentioned acts but after a while I don't think we would have much in common because the major difference in lifestyle would eventually get in the way.