I think, from a psychological standpoint, feelings shouldn’t be avoided. They should be felt and dealt with. And if we are perpetually chasing happiness in a desperate attempt to avoid the more negative feelings in life then we become emotionally stunted individuals. Again, your example of your children uses the phrase “overly grieve”… problematic because *your *gauge will be different than everyone elses. The important thing here is that they allow the grief to take place in the first place. Attempting to avoid it and “think only happy memories” will prolong it… avoidance doesn’t work when it comes to emotions. And yes of course we can completely agree to disagree here :k:.