What if you find out that your daughter who is a hijabi is actually not a practicing muslimah when she is out of the home? How will you handle the situation?
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How would you as a parent make sure your hijabi daughter keeps her integrity intact?
Talk to your daughter, if she doesn't feel it don't force her. Let her come to decision herself when she will be ready to wear it, she will wear it. Just talk to her , don't spank her , don't yell at her, it will worsen the situation.
Friendship factor is the most important thing. If parents can develop friendship with their kids, their kids will always be in line with the values that need to be followed.
Friendship factor is the most important thing. If parents can develop friendship with their kids, their kids will always be in line with the values that need to be followed.
I don't know about that TLK. I speak from personal experience where my parents were pretty open minded but teenage years were confusing so came the rebellion.
I have two teenage cousin in high school. Both wear hijaab and are good kids. But sometimes their facebook statuses are obscene and obtuse like how they want to "chris brown's babies" and I take that as a part of growing up instead of reporting them to their parents.
IMO good kids come back to their good parenting roots and values but sometimes may take a detour on the way.
It is true that KS created a BAD content for a GOOD and legitimate context yet criticism by every other poster about this thread seems out of place to me because many if not most of the threads in this forum fall below the grace in terms of contents.
does this being friends with your kids stuff work? i'm skeptical. it is only giving them a way to manipulate you. and mm they can be pretty manipulative of the parent that is blind with pride and love.
Friendship does not mean that you give them charge. That means that have a relationship where for most of the part, they are not affraid of discussing things with you.
Most of the time hijab thing backfires when girl is forced to wear hijab once she is gown up and secondly Abba huzoor and bhaijaan does not follow a bit of Islam but still force hijab on the girl.
If you want your girl to wear hijab by her own will, start early and more importantly follow teachings of Islam yourself and yeah make your son follow it too.
and finally I second TLK. If you have friendship with your kids i.e you can discuss pretty much any topic with them without fear (or they can with you), chances are that you will avoid big surprises.
and finally I second TLK. If you have friendship with your kids i.e you can discuss pretty much any topic with them without fear (or they can with you), chances are that you will avoid big surprises.
Yep they will come you one day and tell you that they have a bf or gf and you will not be surprised. Or if they announce that they are abandoning the hijab , that will not surprise you , either.
I keed , I keed. Raising the kids is a science and arts and very difficult part of being a parent. It requires delicate balance between , being a disciplinarian, a friend , a caregiver , a parent , an open minded person on certain issues and closed minded on others and much much more. People have written books and thesis for their Ph.D on this topic.
Yep they will come you one day and tell you that they have a bf or gf and you will not be surprised. Or if they announce that they are abandoning the hijab , that will not surprise you , either.
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at least they will tell you that if you are friends with them, and that will give you an opportunity to have an open dialogue with them in civil manner. Its better than they do it and not tell you.