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No,
unless you have slept with both, with the bride and the groom.
Surely attending the wedding and dressing to impress shows that you aren't really over this crush/ex bf or gf?
In another perspective, if you are not going to attend that means you are not over it. You are avoiding looking at him/her. If you go with confidence that means you are over HIM/HER.
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i wont go...
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Yes - why not , its Haram to say No to a free dinner :)
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I second Monk's replies; it gave a helpful insight about people's mentality...lol!!
But I would never ever attend such a wedding. In fact, I still sketch out reasons to avoid going to places where he'll possibly be..Might sound like a coward, but I lack guts to meet him ever again!
What's wrong with dressing to impress? Many a bachelors/singles attend weddings too. U'd be found donning a white sari and dark circles if u weren't "over him".
I knew men were bad intercepting signals/messages!
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Yeah, why not? Aslong as the food is for free.
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Ofcourse!
If needed, rent a rich fiance and a 2009 Alfa Romeo 8C for the weenend, and you're on your way of making that wedding day all about you, and how you and your rented fiance have the perfect life.
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^ Lovely.
When you're (general) the bride you complain about not being center of attention...... now that ure a guest u anna steal teh spotlight :o
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i could not make it to her wedding as i was not in the country when she did get married but i will for sure invite her, a woh aaye na aaye uss kee marzi, But on a serious note why shouldnt you go?
tto1 
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Crush.. yeah, it was only a crush.. nothing serious right?
Ex.. no way!
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Situations like that have the potential to get messy in an emotional way. Hard to explain.
What if you think you're over the person........and you see your crush and all those feelings come rushing back? Emotions/feelings don't come with a 100% guarantee of always remaining controlled or locked up.
What if you still have not managed to get over your past crush. In such a scenario.........I would definitely advise not going to the wedding if you can help it.
It's especially worse........for people who are in a situation where you CAN'T really get out of going to the wedding. For example.........hypothetically speaking............let's say that your "crush" is a close family friend or a cousin............and you feel pressured to attend......because people "might talk" if you don't go.
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1) ** What if your CRUSH knows you once had feelings for them.......and decides to invite you to their wedding anyways. IF YOU DON'T GO.................that might make cause your CRUSH to wonder if you still harbor feelings. Although...........the **CRUSH **should be so wrapped up in the wedding ceremonies, that **he/she shouldn't have the time to wonder about your absence.
2) In some situations...........your PRESENCE......at your Crush's wedding will lead to wagging tongues and questions.
3) In some situations..........your ABSENCE.........at your Crush's wedding will lead to wagging tongues and questions.
Yikes.......could this be a no-win situation in some ways? Depends on how it is viewed.
I think the best thing to do is...........to DO what you feel is best for YOU. People will "talk" till the crack of doom. But you need to do whatever you can to look out for yourself.
If you can't go to the wedding (whether the excuse is illness, work, etc)...........make up for your absence by sending the bride and groom a congratulatory card and wish them well! That way, you won't appear so rude.
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Oh shoot. I should have sent a card... Didn't think if it.
I have the convenience of having my career to hide behind. I cannot go because I'm supposed to work late that night. Or I have an exam.
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I went to ONE wedding. Boy had like 4 wedding ceremonies - caring versions of the nikkah because he married an American woman. I went to ONE because the girls family really insisted. I ended up becoming good friends with this girl so she really wanted me there which was awkward.
Anyway it was generally uncomfortable. So . Yeah. I never allowed myself to repeat that experience. I could care less if people talk. They're gonna talk anyway.
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^ Whatever works for you. I'd use the excuse for work if I was in such a situation.
I just mentioned the card idea for those are are extra conscientious about how they will be viewed.
In a wedding, where there is soooo much going on........I doubt the crush bride/groom would even have the time to wonder whether or not you showed up.
Plus..........I've noticed............that with people whom you KNOW are not crazy about you.........they won't really talk to you even if you did show up. If they do get "pissed".....it's because they need something to "talk" about that makes you look bad.
As I said earlier............sometimes your presence will wag just as many tongues as your absence, lol. ** Do what you know is best for you. **
^ As you said.........people love to talk........will always talk......and will shrivel up and melt........if they dare to mind their own business. Don't care about em. :P
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Agreed. It's their wedding and they should enjoy it. I'd feel bad if I was preventing that for someone.
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If I had feelings for him I wouldn't, if I saw him as just a friend yeah I prob would go..
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^ ditto