You shouldn't think like that. Every child is special to their parents. I had no one by my side all through my pregnancy. Had a very rough pregnancy. I gave birth with no family by my side. I cooked for my husband when I was having severe contractions. No one pampered me. I did everything alone from laundry to cooking to cleaning. But guess what, I gave birth to a healthy child without anyone's help. I wouldn't have it any other way. I loved going to appointments alone without having to worry about ghar main sab intezaar kar rahay hoon gaey ke kiya hua. Very few people in my family knew that my son was diagnosed with a rare condition while I was pregnant. I didn't have to explain that to anyone. I loved being busy and not being pampered. You should be happy for her. No one steals anyones thunder. For my next pregnancy, I am not asking for anyone my mother or MIL or anyone for that matter to come help me. I want to do it alone.
same case was with me!
it was easy in sense that you can do your house chores whenever you want to and also you keep yourself active throughout your pregnancy.....
you realize that you dont want anyone to help you with taking care of a newborn n household tasks....you can do it alone!
oh and i used to massage my legs in last trimester all by myself it was exhausting but then i get a goodnight sleep after it....
there's no need for pamper-ing!
now that my sil is pregnant m happy that she doesnt have to do anything n that everyone is there for her all the time....no thunder!
Ofcourse if someone in the family is hiding the news of their pregnancy from you (and pretend) that they themselves come to know of it in the 5th month I would say its gross. But people, some of them, are actually made of such stuff. DONT BOTHER.
Whats so gross about that ??
I got pregnant around 2 months after my sister. She was having her first child and I , my second. I did not tell about my pregnancy right away and waited until about end of 4th month. I did not pretend that I just came to know about it but I just did not tell right away.
To the OP: For whatever reason I felt the same. i.e. my sister is having her first child and there I am, pregnant at the same time !! She should get all the attention etc but we lived far apart and she got attention from her husband and in-laws and it was not like I got pregnant intentionally to steal her thunder.
one of my aunts (grand mothers sisters daughter) would get jealous of us because she had three kids and my mom only had two but we were very pampered I think it was because we were a newer addition to the family?
I think jealousy is normal but don't let other people see it because they will think low of you. As much as I love you demi<3 its something that you have to ignore and you know since her baby is going to be coming one month earlier they'll be all over your baby after they get used to the other one!
You'll always be the one to think your children are the most intelligent, kind, generous and beautiful little horrors Allah blessed you with so don't worry even if your SILs kid gets more attention it'll be brief because your baby will come and your good looks combined with your stunner husband... I just know you'll have such a cutey pie for a kid.
Besides you have khalas from all over the world who will praise your kid to death :P
Aww my baby:hugs: I’m not a bigger person myself..but the pregnancy hormones sure change you completely. I know it’s difficult living alone while you are pregnant but trust me it’s better than living in a joint family just to be pampered by your inlaws:/ even if she is being pampered right now, your kid would have his own value and he would be loved by both the sides, trust me.. Because this is their son’s first child!!
my husband pampered me during the pregnancy, when my mom came over in my 8th month, she took care of me along with hubby but honestly what mattered most was that my hubby was taking good care of me. alhamdulilah.
Off topic! but I love your replies whether they are about your wedding, pregnany, inlaws etc etc. Your hubby is indeed a lucky guy.
You've the right to be upset and surely I think there is more to it than the post indicates, therefor be mad, hurt, whatever for those 2 mins and then throw it all out. No need to let such negativity grow inside you. It will only make it worse for you.
and plus, dont expect people to be all "awww" about your baby. Your baby is special to you and your husband. For everyone else he is just another kid on the block. I hope you get my point, now cheer up :)
Aww Kakee, thanks. I don’t really care about them being all over this or that, as it is you know how focused I am on my husband and husband only truly. But it annoys the life out of me that this was my baby’s time, I am not looking for reflected glory. I have had a horrendous pregnancy and no help at all on any account BUT it annoys me that they’ll pamper her. And it annoys me that somehow, conveniently, she makes sure to try to one up me somehow or the other in everything in petty ways. The sheer pettiness annoys me. Don’t insult my intelligence by telling me you didn’t know you were nearly five months pregnant!
As for the Khalas around the world, WORD
That is all this is about. Kid DESERVES attention from both sides of fam bam. My love can more than make up for lack of the world’s love even, I would love my child that much and I do. BUT, my kid deserves EVERYTHING. I’m sure mothers can understand my feelings.
totally vented it out. not letting anyone see it. infact id encourage them to treat her well
you should really be happy your kid will have a cousin of pretty much the same age to play and hang out with. since when does a baby care if its families are pampering it or not? they have like 2-3 needs. no thunder or lightning.
are you serious? I mean that would involve asking your hubby’s bro not to get physical with his wife during the times your hubby is planning to errmm.. do stuff with you. How convenient would that be?
Oh btw, it might happen that on your wedding night, they had a reincarnation of their wedding night, just out of fun
Supposing you are having your first child, and the pregnancy has not been easy and you have gotten no help from family as such since you live away from them.
Supposing someone within the inlaws announces that she is pregnant too and is in fact delivering a week before you. Supposing it is the younger brother's wife, and this is her second child (her first is eight months old). Supposing she was superbly pampered in the first pregnancy and suppose that she breaks this to you when you are halfway through your pregnancy.
How hurt would you feel?
It was YOUR baby's time. He/she deserved the undivided attention of both sides of the family.
Supposing I am very hurt, and insanely mad.
Lemme tell ya something.
Be thankful you have no one pampering you otherwise you'd have to hear it for the REST of your life, the REST of your child's life and their generations to come that HOW MUCH they pampered you. Be thankful you can do it yourself.
Second, having a baby isn't rocket science. Women, please don't be mad at me but really, honestly, we're not sick when we're pregnant. It is a condition that results from having fun the night before. Sure it isn't easy but it will all be over soon. So now we're having a baby, and guess what, it's the most common thing in the world. It's a big deal to ME that I'm pregnant (I'm not) and my husband, and everyone can be happy, but no one is really truly responsible. Enjoy the moment and cherish the joys.
To the OP...you are upset that you were not told that your SIL was 5 months along or are you upset that she is having a baby around the same time as you are...??
If it is the first situation,I am assuming that since she is living with family and getting the pampering you are talking about so that means everyone else knew except for you...??..If that is the case,not good on their part and makes me wonder why would they keep it from you..
If it is the second situation,you cannot possibly enforce a ban on other couples to prevent them from doing it,you know...:D
sorry but this is quite a selfish feeling!! how would u feel if someone thinks the same way when u are pregnant with your second child... "oh she already had one, now she is pregnant so that she can take the fame from my child"
quite a ridiculous thought to be honest and yes we can blame it on the hormones ... ;)
just yesterday an indian lady told that she was 5 months pregnant after her first baby and found out later, yes it can happen, not all females know it from the beginning that they are pregnant right away.
I dont want to scare you but someone in my family was pregnant with a unplanned baby, she hid it from everyone, then at 8 month she lost the baby, the baby died in her .... so u need to focus on better things and not in such seriously unimportant issues as who is pregnant around me.
My cousin had her baby 1 day after me and we love sharing our babies pics and u can see the progress they make, share the same issues/things, it is really neat to have someone in the family who has a baby around the same time as u.
awwww. As much as thanks for a laugh, I guess this thread was purely based of pregnancy hormones and motherhood possessiveness combined. Who would volunteer now
WORD 
right up in their face!!
