Your about to get married

Lifestyle Relationships
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Did you relationship change between you and your sisters/friends?

Alot of people say once you are married you realise what people are really like - what is meant by this?

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i think wat ppl mean by this is that once u get married and get busy in ur married life u dont usually have time for other ppl and hence start seeing a differnt side to these ppl.

before all of my sisters got married we made a promise to each other that no matter what wud happen we wudnt change towards each other and if one of us ever did then we wud have the right to give them a reality check and tell them if sumthing was wrong. and thats exactly what we have done. if i see sumthin wrong i wont hide it but speak to my sister about it and see what her opinion is.

however, friends, have literally dissappeared once they got married cos they got so busy in their lives so in a way i suppose u do notice a difference in ppl but its not always negative.

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See my friends have got married and therefore don't have time for me anymore i someimes feel lonely so looking forward to getting married so i can move on also - and have someone there for me when needed

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you are right, now a days, everything have got changed, even your blood relations!! friends will forever stop contacting you and sisters will hardly meet you and talk to you because of busy lives, in-laws' wishes etc etc etc.......

i really fear it because im gonna wed soon next year

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Thats wot i fear getting married next year already i feel as though i do not have the support of my sistas anymre :( Its like they got their own lives and don't want to get involved in my upcoming wedding they don't show an interest and i feel as though i cannot approach them for advice.

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For me I felt the relationship with my sisters did change inside me, in the sense that I realized its not something to take for granted and I valued it even more after I got married and moved away, as opposed to when I was living at home and seeing them everyday. So dont worry, change isnt always a bad thing. You might find you get even closer to your sisters after marriage instead of drifting away from each other. It all depends on your attitude and the effort you put into your relationship. If you feel they arent putting the necessary effort in, then I guess you have to double your own effort and keep trying

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plus u have to make any relationship what u want it to be. im sorry to hear that ur sisters are not putting much interest into ur relationship, most families normally be really excited about weddings in the family.

maybe u shud talk to them? are they all married, if so explain how they wudve liked it if no one was interested in their day, and if they are unmarried just plainly state that when their time comes u wont show any interest and then they'l realise how important it is to have an input, hopefully :)

good luck

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One sis in particular she older and yes married.
Other sisters married and unmarried are ok.

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dont let it get u down. its stressful as it is the months coming up to the wedding without this added stress. just ignore who ignores u and focus on the good things and enjoy what ur new life is due to bring u.

Insan kab marta hai?
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Thanks Ruby

Its just easier said then done i don't have any propa friends so no one really to talk to. But i'll get their on my own and once married i will have my husband there for me inshallah.

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I say give your sister a break. Is she newly married? Newly weds are going through a lot of emotions and maybe she is focusing her time on her new life for now. Giver her sometime and maybe relate to her in a gentle manner how you miss talking to her.

I know when i got married, my inlaws were staying with me for a little bit and i couldnt talk on the phone as freely with my friends and family while they were around. It was just awkward. Also my husband wanted the time in teh evenings just for him. And thus i avoided calling my sis at that time which happened to suit her best since she was working during the day. It was a bit hard but we made do with phone calls here and there and try to catch up with each other. Just because i have a new life doesnt mean i dont care for my siblings. It just means a bit more busier but still really do miss the sisterly chats we used to do.

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me and my sister have gotten even closer now im married , we call each other more than 5 times a day and see each other every other day , prolly coz husband is a cousin so we just all hang out