Why can't a Young mom also be an educated mom? I guess that's a more important question. This thought of proces is usually only seen among desis (my observation). Every other nationality, arab, turk etc. etc. has no problem with a married woman finishing off her education.
I got married at 18, had a kid at 20, finished my bachelors at 22 and now working full time and doing my masters part time. I'm 25 AND a single mum. :) And, alhamdulillah, I've got a lovely, polite and smart kid! :)
So no, age does not matter, neither does your educational background. But on the other hand, having kids does not stop you from getting an education either. And having children is a diploma and job itself! ;)
I got married at 18, had a kid at 20, finished my bachelors at 22 and now working full time and doing my masters part time. I'm 25 AND a single mum. :) And, alhamdulillah, I've got a lovely, polite and smart kid! :)
So no, age does not matter, neither does your educational background. But on the other hand, having kids does not stop you from getting an education either. And having children is a diploma and job itself! ;)
So as per desi standards, you are either educated, means degree on academic level, preferably with a few PhDs, or you are uneducated.
Wonder why people forget there are many levels of education, and not everyone needs/wants to have a college degree. Higher education doesnt make you a better person or a better parent. If that were the case the world would have been a much better place.
The worst people are the parhay likhay jaahils, like someone above mentioned. Parh likh kar bhi kakh na seekha.
I haven't read the thread in its entirety, just PCG's original post. I think my mom backed off from supervising homework/grades when we got into middle school because we had become more independent by then. After that, from time to time, I'd occasionally ask her opinion on an essay question or ask for ideas on how to construct a project. Though my mom's education wasn't in English, she would still help with math and basic grammar etc. She didn't have to do the kinds of school projects that I did, but she knew what tools could be used to construct them.
The women who are getting married at 18-22...if they went to school at all...they do have an idea about the fundamentals of the core academic subjects, and they are able contribute to their children's academic education. I doubt they're empty-headed and wholly incapable. You need not have a Master's or a PHD or a ton of work experience to be able to contribute toward the "formative years" of your child's education. Plus , as I said earlier, after a point kids become more independent. There are also different types of education. I believe deeni and character education is also necessary....and that doesn't require a degree. This type of education may be harder to teach and reinforce than academic education because it may not be taught in schools, and values of the home can come into conflict with "values" projected by the media and that of the macro-culture, and it requires more consistency and modeling from parents.
Because my ultimate goal in life is not only to be a mum (nor have I ever thought that this was my sole purpose in life). While I’m sure having an education will be useful in helping my (future) children with their education, it was not the sole reason I went to uni and obtained a degree.
You ask this because you have the same over sold idea that I had, a misconception that schools are creating better human beings. Or education is imparting values.
In one line, the purpose of schools is to create skilled labor. Hence no connection with school and being a good mom or a good human being for that matter.
