Would you allow your kids/younger siblings to have older friends, say around 9-10 years older than them?
I was shocked when my friend was telling me about her 15 year old brother who has a much older friend and is 25 years old. The boy has a very bad and negative influence on the kid, for example he encouraged him to have a girl friend to “beat boredom” and when they went out he used to stare at girls and pass comments - in front of the 15 year old, who found it funny and participated!
Is there anything one can do to prevent such “age difference” friendships?
Ok in her case - the guy works for her dad, there’s not much she can do but i told her to report everything to her dad!
Kids learn these things even from school, you can't prevent it. At home probably you can restrict him/her from meeting certain people but when they are out of ur sight what would you do? You wouldn't know it. I believe that all we can do is tell the them diff between rights and wrong and leave the decision on the kids. It give them independence and also they know that they are responsible for their acts.
In the above scenario all you can do is talk to this guy and tell him to control his behavior in front of a kid or report him as u suggested. However, I believe this 15 yr old kid is old enuff to know right from wrong. He should be friend with whoever he wants to be friend with. Otherwise he will become rebellious, cuz this is the age where you have to be easy going and guide them on every step. But do not make their decisions.
what are u more pissed off? 15year old learning about opposite gender in a crooked way or 25 year old passing comments (wallah aalim, true ones) to your gender? get your feelings cleared first.. :-) it sounds so mixed