Meeting new pple at the masjid is something I’ve heard of, but I don’t know about you guys, the mosque I go to doesn’t have a lot of young single people that I can just turn to and say hi to and get to know.
I guess I also don’t really take the initiative to get friendly with the girls, everyone is in cliquies anyway, and I get the impression that they’re usually teenagers or just older women with kids. No one in my situation, at least that’s not evident to me. I met one girl in my field, but she’s like 5 yrs younger than me. Which is cool, I go talk to her and all, but I don’t know many other people.
I tried another mosque in Ramadan, and that place seemed to have young women, but mostly married, again. And not remotely approachable, no one makes eye contact, few people smile, and most were just busy with their prayers…
And I have TRIED looking for meetups, and even went to one halaqa in which I literally walked in, and walked out - all really old ethiopian ladies and there were a grand total of 2 of them in the room.
I have not met anyone at a mosque ever, as a single or after getting married. But then before I got married I would have needed to go there to meet someone.
It's more social events and organizations. You are in a decent sized city there are bound to be chapters of HDF, Your Dil, APPNA etc type groups. Try them.
lol. it does not mean you are involving in politics. many people just go there to find SO. Your DIL is active society, they organize dinner meet-up where young souls meet their mates.
In mosque, you need to get with any girl or married women, and start conversation they will definitely try to fix a possible risha chai thingy.
it's really hard to immerse yourself in a group once people have already settled in and formed their "cliques".
im saying this cuz the MSA girls were notttt nice to me. :( only reason i can think of is that....i didnt have a hijab...and they kept on looking at me. =\
I too find mosques a bit overrated for meeting new people. All I see are arab men talking to each other in arabic.
Another thing is that you have to be a regular at the mosque to get familiar with anyone. And if you are not dressed the way others are then they will be suspicious of you and will ignore you.
You can hardly meet someone (or make friends) during 5 normal prayers. Concept is to be regular at prayers, functions and gatherings in local Islamic center and ultimately it works. Getting active for a month in 2..3..4 time prayers wont get you much as everyone is in a hurry.
Your DIL is active society, they organize dinner meet-up where young souls meet their mates.