Mrsshy looks like we will agree to disagree on 50% the above statement-only because I'm looking at this from the point of view of seeing families with derailed, unhinged kids in them in the UK.
My personal opinion is its easy to blame something that is outside the home. The first place a child learns is at home, amongst their loved ones. They then learn from their environment and once they start developing their own personality friends start to influence them. Bollywood is entertainment and should be used for entertainment purposes-if a parent is willing to let their say for example 8 year old watch a bollywood film then the influence is only there because parents have allowed it. Parents need to take a stronger stance with children. My mum didn't allow me to have a tv in my bedroom until I was 16. My mum met all my friends-even when I was at uni. When I visited friends mum knew exactly where I was. I didn't play around, I enjoyed life within reason (e.g. no dating etc). My mum took responsiblity and didn't allow me to watch bollywood films until i was old enough to understand films are entertainment only. I wasn't allowed to wear make-up until i was 18!
Sorry for the babble, but in my humble opinion parental responsibilty is a large part of it. Some parents need a wake-up call and need to get their brains into gear and think about what is best for their children.
Some of our extended family allow their Muslim children to drink, club and even date and their justification is 'oh all kids in the UK do it' when clearly that is the silliest statement known to mankind!
Children should be taught right from wrong, why being a good Muslim is not only useful now but for the eternal home. Passing the buck is not a way of upbringing, it's a way of covering up a weak upbringing.
Just my 2 pence worth.
media for sure is to blame. they don't even leave kid's cartoons. my daughter was in pre-school last yr just 4 yrs old n small kids used to talk abt girl friends n boy friends. she naturally gets well with boys n its mostly one friend at a time. she would come home saying everyone at school says that boy is ur boyfriend. how can u control this? small kids saying boys n girls can kiss on lips, my mom has a baby in her tummy n i'm taking abt 4 yrs old. how can u always control everything?
i have been really strict in which movies my kids will watch n which they won't but when they go to a relatives/ friend's house they'll watch things not allowed at home. its everywhere in society now like a virus.
we should just pray to Allah to keep our kids away from Satan. wat i'm seeing is no matter how good ur home environment is some kids r always more influenced by peers n evil n they get the virus no matter how careful u r.