bebo
November 15, 2009, 9:43am
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I live in Canada and I have a friend at uni whose khala’s family just immigrated to Canada like 2 yrs ago. My friend’s family has been here for good 15 years and he is engaged to his gf of 3 years who he started seeing when he was 20. The problem is, his khala, who only immigrated 2 yrs ago has a son who is 14 and is in grade 9 has a girl friend (sounds pathetic, doesn’t it?). Anyways, he is only 14 and he takes the money that his parents give him for lunch n stuff n buys that 13 yr old gf of his cheap gifts. He also gave her a PROMISE ring (im being SERIOUS), which my friend thinks that he stole from his mom. That kid’s little sister who is only 11 is already getting influenced by her 14 yr old brother. She refers to her bro’s gf as “bhabi” and that 14 yr girl who is dating my frd’s cousin tells this 11 yr old girl all her “boyfriend” problems. Whats really strange is that the 19 yr old sister of that the 14 yr old girl who is dating my frd’z cousin knows everything abt her little sister dating and stuff and she’s ok with it! I mean if my lil sister did that I would beat her (well, not BEAT her but at least tell her to stop). But yea, I dont get wat kind of a sister she is…
Anyways, to make the LONG story a lil short, My friend is really worried about this kid and also about that kid’s little sister. He wants to bring this under’s his khala’s n her husband’s attention but he feels that him speaking to them will only embarrass them. I mean listening to something like this abt ur child from ur nephew can be quiet embarrassing. He tried speaking to his cousin but his cousin was extremely rude to him n told him to mind his own business and that really hurt my friend and made him angry. I mean my friend is 10 yrs older than this kid and this kid had the nerve to speak to him like that. My friend really does not know what to do to get this boy to stop and make him realize that wat he’s doing is wrong on so many levels. He doesnt know how to explain to him that u CANNOT marry ur gf at the age of 14… I mean I knew my fiance for 5 yrs before engagement and we were NOT 14, we were 18!
Anyways, any suggestions u guys can give me for my friend? What should he do? He really feels that his khala n her husband can handle this boy and he has not told his own parents abt this. He does not want to embarrass his khala in ANY way. He wants it to stay between his khala’s family ONLY. So yea, any suggestions guys?
I got a little dizzy by my friend of friend and all that but what I understand is that your friend should get a hint from this and not interfere in this matter any further. BTW for some people 18 years is still too immature to get into any sort of relationships and stuff but everyone’s have their own limits of whats appropriate or not. So my advise would be that he and you both should stay out of it.