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Some people view education as the be all and end of of life. It isn't. Some people study, others don't - it isn't the path for everybody.
She's had a child in a marriage. Beats the situations when you have children having children (i.e. someone under 18) where the father is rarely on the scene to support them and the tax payer is left to pick up the bill.
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It's not the age that is the problem (to me) but the mindset. And that, with or without child.
Comparing between generations is just silly.
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there are some women who aspire to this - to motherhood and wifehood. The woman I admire most in this world is my SIL who married at 16 and had 4 kids. when this is your aspiration and your desire, you tend to just be so great at it. And being young surely helps because you have the energy you need to do all the fun and exciting things for your littles. She just personifies the very best of motherhood, wifehood and home-making, she knew what she wanted at a very young age and she got it and then proceeded to excel at it.
For those who have no other choice but to marry so young whether they want to or not...those I fell very sorry for.
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And yet again, people are missing the the bulk of the OP's post.
When you go to a dawat, and you see the 19 year old girl with a baby in her arms (she is married), having done zero education after high school, not really caring about politics, or public affairs, *or having any interest other than beating a dhol at a mehndi... * What do you think?
This isn't just about education. You can be a stimulating and intelligent person without having academic qualifications. Just like some people I know who have a degree but not much going on upstairs. You do wonder what they will pass on to the next generation. Certainly not wisdom or common sense but maybe a love for bollywood movies and reality tv.
:k: … I agree. I know someone who got married quite young and had kids right away as well … and she is an amazing mother. And that is truly what she wanted.
Everyone’s dreams and priorities are different in life. Who are we to judge other’s in what they want??? If someone wants to get married young and have kids…great… if someone doesn’t … also great.
As Mamaof3 says … I feel bad for those that had no choice and option in any of it.
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More power to her. Being judgmental again? Pathetic!
Look what 'education' taught you!
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when you were getting your education PCG, did you ever come across the word "tolerance"?
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What about the other way around? Girls who didn't have any option in NOT getting married and being forced off to school and getting one degree after another - all so their parents can show off about their degrees. Who didn't get married because they weren't given any time to meet anyone.
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Well how do you feel when you realise that the girl you thought was 18 turning 19 was actually 17 when she married a 30 year old and jus turned 18.
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To the question-: I feel like slapping them and asking them to wait abit, My dads cousin whenever i see her shes pregnant! she has like 6 kids, (mashallah) :p
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If some of them did not get married, they learned to pass judgment on those who did!
What about the other way around? Girls who didn't have any option in NOT getting married and being forced off to school and getting one degree after another - all so their parents can show off about their degrees. Who didn't get married because they weren't given any time to meet anyone.
then it's obviously wrong, and sad. next!
So its ok to be in a relationship, to “go out”, to start seeing boys when you’re like 17 or even younger… but marriage? 
how dare you!
About the delivery bit… the 13 year old boy who impregnated the 15 year old girl in Britain received more “Awww’s” than a 19 yr old married muslim girl would have received for having a baby.
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marriage is not the issue huma, its having a baby when you clearly havnt been educated yet, why take away a girls life like that? a baby is alot of work, i really dont like it when young girls hav kids b4 getting any education of some kind.
even if they r white brown black green yellow red blue pink
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About the delivery bit... the 13 year old boy who impregnated the 15 year old girl in Britain received more "Awww's" than a 19 yr old married muslim girl would have received for having a baby.
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Exactly - the tabloids were involved in a bidding war to get their story.
And there there was the childs 28 year old grandmother....
Thread starter would have had a problem with something had she been the only human on earth
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why do you care?
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^ I am a big advocate of higher education for girls MB after going through 7 rigorous years of it myself. But I am not going to be passing judgment on those that did not decide to go down the same or even similar path as me. Some girls truly do not want to get educated ...and obviously have no desire to make use of it either. We all come across those girls that miserably get thru their undergrad only because their parents make them. Their only dream is to get married and have children - nothing is wrong with that. They should have given that seat in college to another girl who truly wants to be there.
A baby is a lot of work but I doubt that these girls that are having babies young when they are married think that their life is being taken away. Some girls may regret having kids young for OTHER reasons .. but i have never come across a young married girl who thinks her life has been taken away due to her darlings.
To each their own. That is my stance on this topic. Not everyone is the same and not everyone is going to have the same opinions. So what if some girls don't get married till they are 30 and are more career minded and who cares if some girls get married out of high school and have babies. As long as YOU are in control of YOUR OWN life and happy where it is taking you and happy with your OWN DECISIONS... that is all that should matter.
why do you care?
Because its not her being married or her havving an extravagant wedding etc
You keep repeatedly replying to threads posted by me, with multiple put-down comments.
What does that say about you?
And you're not even a bored housewife. Don't you have a job or something?
Thanks for the good comment!
If you open a thread, then expect a reply. What's so unusual there?
You take it as put down comments since they do not agree with you, tough!
marriage is not the issue huma, its having a baby when you clearly havnt been educated yet, why take away a girls life like that? a baby is alot of work, i really dont like it when young girls hav kids b4 getting any education of some kind. even if they r white brown black green yellow red blue pink
My mother had me young. She doesn't feel as though her life was taken away. She had other dreams, besides an education. It was her choice. My mom always says, that she never knew her mother young, cuz she had her as an older woman. I always knew my mom as young, and I'm happy for that.
I made different choices in my life. Im in med school now. achieved much more then my mom did. But I sometimes do wonder how complacent my life would have been if I gotten married young and had kids instead and been a housewife like my mom, instead of still being in school- worried about yet another exam . yeah, I look at people liek that, and think how stress free they are. how complacent their life is. Not to be ungrateful, alhumdullilah, im happy were im at, and know that im blessed, and happy that i will inshallah achieve my goals...but sometimes i wonder....
Maybe it's just that the other side of fence is always greener. who knows.
Huma, when i found out about that, i was absoloutly disgusted, words cant describe how i felt.
Things were alot different back in the day hun, Women didnt have a choice back then, However they do these days, Like my dad always says to me your so lucky to live here why dont you take advantage of the education oppurtunities and hes so right! I can have a baby when im 24-25 inshallah no problem thats not old at all. I will still be young, My mum was 30 when she had me and now im 20 shes 50 and we have a good relationship!