Don't people 'force' their kids in matters of education, use of language, manners etc??
why that forcing is ok.....but for religioius purposes it is wrong??
Because religion is totally a different matter. I don't know why but children becomes baghi when they are forced. Religion is something which should not be enforced on anyone. Why don't parents become good example first.. it will inspired their children to follow them. I have seen families where parents are following Islam and not forcing their children to follow their footsteps. Their children start following their parents and religion wholeheartedly. But children who are forced to do religious things they leave all those practices as soon as they get a chance.
Living in Pakistan I have seen that people make their 4-5 year old daughter wear hijaab not like just for praying etc they make them wear everywhere. In my opinion it's extreme and I would never do this to my daughter. I have no problem with hijaab I wear hijaab too but a 4-5 year old girl is too young for that .
I plan to educate my daughter about importance of hijaab and would be very happy if she wears it when she grows up but I would not force her , it should be her choice same way I would want her to pay attention to her education but I would not choose a career for her she is free to choose any decent career for herself.
But one thing is sure whether she choose to wear a hijaab / abaya or not she will have to observe & follow a decent way of dressing up which means covering her whole body and no tight/flashy clothes.
Niqaab is something I believe is an extreme . Hijaab and abaya is fine !
Hijab/abaya/burka on little girls is just weird. Yes its just as weird and extreme as little girls wearing padded bras or perfectly styled hair and makeup (a la "Toddlers and Tiaras").
Here in UAE, I see some very tiny girls wear hijab with their uniforms. However, it's not very common to see pre-teen girls wear a hijab. But that's just hijab. The same thing applies for burkas too. It's only teenagers and olders that I have seen that wear a burka. IMO, hijab and burka for very young girls is over kill. There comes a point where you start to do things for yourself, and not what your parents "pressurize" you into doing. That's when, as someone said, rebellion occurs and you go from one extreme to another.
I am still clueless on why west's "freedom of women" ends from where burqa starts. It should be personal choice and if some girl is using it, no one else has right to object.
People do **try **to raise kids the way they want. Forcing for Namaz, Forcing for Sunday Church, Education, Forcing Time curfew etc and then, its considered as "parents are training their kids for their own betterment". Why cant parents ask (not force) girl to take burqa?
Parent can make young girls wear abaya/ burka/ hijaab if they like. They can do this by forcing, pressuring, or making them wear these by letting them understand the advantages.
However, the girls will be choosing what they want to do when they are big enough to make their own decisions. If they had been previously wearing burka through pressure and they were not happy then, they will try to avoid it when it comes to their personal choice.
So the parents should better make the young girls wear them after proper teaching them the benefits and making them understand the importance of parda in Islam. When these teachings will be instilled in young girls, they will most probably be continuing it in the future with their own will.
We are no one to object if parents want their young girls to wear burka. Its their choice. We can just suggest them to make the girls understand the objective of burka to avoid the girls going to extremes and quitting the burka when they become adult (and thus creating a rift between girls and their parents).
Says you! I'm born/raised in the west and I know countless nikabi's. So I don't know what you mean by "end of the world". All this garbage about "it's opression, it's wrong, it's not a part of islam blah blah" why don't you go and ask a girl who wears nikab if she is oh so opressed and sad. The nikabis I know are educated, earn for themselves, have friends who are not muslim, associate with non-muslims, males/females and living their lives as they wish.
Once again, no one should be FORCED into it but as parents if this is something they consider important then so be it. Everyone has their values, and it is known that our parents are so pushy about our education, god forbid we decide not to go to college/university. No one questions mummy and daddy then but oh they force their daughter to wear hijab, tauba tauba!
Islam doesn't bend it's rules, according to Islam once your baligh, your baligh all your sins count. People like to bend and twist to make it fit for their own lifestyle.
If you don't want to do it, that's fine no problem. But sitting here and looking down upon those who do choose to do things a certain way is kind of stupid.
I'd like to teach my children about their religion as early as possible so they learn to make the right choices and make them out of an understanding rather than force or pressure. This brainwashing only happens in a barbaric and/or helpless society.
My little nieces wear the Abaya (the long gown and head scarf) when they go to the Masjid mA they look so cute. Also wearing a head scarf at school reduced the risk of getting head lice :p
what about the Muslim women in Prophet's era - who used to fought among Muslim men in battles - what about Hazrat Ayesha ( RA) who led the battle of Jamal - what kind of pardah they used to observe ?
what about the women working in fields ? can they wear burqa and work at same time ?
what about the Muslim women in Prophet's era - who used to fought among Muslim men in battles - what about Hazrat Ayesha ( RA) who led the battle of Jamal - what kind of pardah they used to observ
I don't agree with the burqa in totality. It's over the top. However, end of the day it's up to that particular girl to decide. As I do believe in choice.
The burqa has no place in Islam. I think wearing it and having a wire mesh to stare out of would feel rather imprisoning. That is totally unnecessary when Allah has prescribed no such thing for women. Abayas are totally different and I don't think they're is anything wrong with kids wearing that.
The burqa has no place in Islam. I think wearing it and having a wire mesh to stare out of would feel rather imprisoning. That is totally unnecessary when Allah has prescribed no such thing for women. Abayas are totally different and I don't think they're is anything wrong with kids wearing that.
That's your own oppinion. Keep in mind that not everyone believes the same thing when it comes to Pardah so for this family it could be as important as hijab. In hanafi and shafi madhab it is wajib to wear nikab and majority of the south-asian muslims are hanafi/shafi. Just to clear up one thing AGAIN - wearing a nikab is NOT imprisoning. You can't answer on behalf of other people, you are not a nikabi therefore you don't know what it's like.