Re: you wana earn yourself or wana dependent on your spouse for money?
Every woman is different. A working wife might have to take a break from her job to take care of a baby in the future. During this time, she'll be more financially dependent on her husband. And when the kids are older, she might resume working again. Emergencies/pressing circumstances can crop up in the future where one spouse may have to be more dependent on the other. Also, considering how bad the economy is these days.....a wife might also have to work to help pay the bills and run the house/support the family. It's impractical to expect that one could stay at home and live off their husband's income forever......because life is unpredictable, anything can happen.....and there has to flexibility when hard times come your way.
I personally would like to work after marriage. As far as managing money is concerned, I think it's best to have a joint account and a separate account. You can put a portion of your money in the joint account and that money will contribute toward shared household expenses. And then you have a separate account which is strictly yours and it is like your safety net for emergency issues or personal expenses. I'm not married.....but this is what seems likes a good arrangement to me in my mind. However, i understand that actually being in a marriage changes things. It would be interesting to see how the married women on GS handle this issue :)