Re: you wana earn yourself or wana dependent on your spouse for money?
I don't think anybody willing wants to be dependent upon anyone ( I remember some of the elders in my family openly saying ke Allah unn ko kissay ka mohtaaj na karein). Circumstances and situations change over one's lifetime which may require one to adopt a different way of thinking.
Personally, I would like to work before I had children. After that I would like to devote my time to raising them. After that, maybe return back to work.
I would feel guilty spending someone else's hard earned money.