Like, marrying that one guy or girl, defying what everyone says, breaking off all family contacts because of that. And in the end it doesn’t work out.
That must be seriously embarrassing.
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I understand and yes it is embarrassing! All you can try and do in that situation is try and make amends with the people who you went against. Try and explain to them the situation, pray, forgive and forget! There is nothing else you can do. I would actually take their future opinions seriously into consideration for any future decisons.
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…me fink this calls for a Frank Sinatra moment. 
For what is a man, what has he got?
If not himself, then he has naught
To say the things he truly feels and not the words of one who kneels
The record shows I took the blows and did it my way!
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^^ Taalllliiyaaan Orphee:D
Re: You know what must really suck? Going against everyone and failing. (relationship
Depends on what is your definition of failure? To have tried and not succeeded may not always point to failure.
Also if you had not married whom you truly wanted to you may always have though what if...and not been satisfied with your current life.
Also a true test of your family is whether they will still be there to support you despite all this.
And yes hats off to "I did it my way"
Lastly, one should not worry about being embarassed. In the first place if they wanted to defy the world they did not care about the worlds opinions...so why care now.
Life is too short...dont waste time on petty trivial things like embarassements...Pick something good from the relationship...and move on!
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there are many who go with the flow and still fail!!
Failing in a relationship has nothing to do with what others think or thought....but then I don't like the word "fail" anyways!
Learn from what went wrong and move on....
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It fails, but I think once the failure is over families can be open to forgive and forget.
My dada's brother moved to the UK in the 50s, got a white girlfriend, and she moved moved in with him out of wedlock (it would have been ok if they got married, but we don't tolerate illegitimate relationships). Worse, they two of them had a bastard son from their relationship.
Family ties with him were completely cut. A few decades later, his girlfriend had died from a medical condition, and the bastard son died in a motorbike accident.
With all traces of his transgressions thus expunged, he was welcomed back into the family with open arms for the rest of his life and the past never mentioned before him again.
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that’s ridiculous!
how forgiving of your family to do so… 
personally, if my family cut me off for the choices i was making in my life, i wouldn’t go back to them!
also, i didn’t know people still used words like “******* son”. its kind of entertaining 
woy, why did my ******* get starred-out but not his?
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Why is the son a [EMAIL="B@ST@RD"]B@ST@RD? If their relationship was "wrong"...how is it the kid's fault to be shunned as such. That's retarted.
As for the question posed in this thread....Its hard to say. Even an arranged marriage could "fail" horribly. Why not abandon the family since it was their fault. I hate it when families cut ties with their kids because they made their own decision. It is the kids who have to spend their lives with the person, not the parents/cousins/khandan...etc. Whether you chose the person or not, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't...you just give it your best shot and try to make it work. If not learn from it. Concern shouldn't be what the outsides think, but I do think it'd be nice to reconcile with immediate family.
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just gamble and see :)
Re: You know what must really suck? Going against everyone and failing. (relationship
Why is the son a [EMAIL="B@ST@RD"]B@ST@RD? If their relationship was "wrong"...how is it the kid's fault to be shunned as such. That's retarted. As for the question posed in this thread....Its hard to say. Even an arranged marriage could "fail" horribly. Why not abandon the family since it was their fault. I hate it when families cut ties with their kids because they made their own decision. It is the kids who have to spend their lives with the person, not the parents/cousins/khandan...etc. Whether you chose the person or not, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't...you just give it your best shot and try to make it work. If not learn from it. Concern shouldn't be what the outsides think, but I do think it'd be nice to reconcile with immediate family.
The son was a B@ST@RD because the definition of the word , when not used as an insult, is "illegitimate child". His parents were not married, so he was not legitimate, therefore it is factually accurate to refer to him as such.
I did not use the term B@ST@RD as an insult, I used it for its actually meaning.
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ahhhh, makes sense.
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ahhhh, makes sense.
GS knows what he meant, hence, the word didn't get starred-out. lol. kidding of course.
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Like, marrying that one guy or girl, defying what everyone says, breaking off all family contacts because of that. And in the end it doesn't work out.
That must be seriously embarrassing.
well how could one be sure that the fact that breaking off contacts had no stress on the relationship. Cuttign off ties sounds all fine and dandy until someone has to do it. and if both ppl have to do it tyhe expectations from each other would be high i.e. i gave up all that fior yioy atleast u can cook me a decent meal, or atleast u can stop going out with the lads this weeknd cuz I asked you to, even if that is not the case just having to be cut off from teh family and a support mechanism can have its own
IN my view families who get in the way w/o legitimate reasons, and those are few are a bunch of controlling morons anyways
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Look at this way. If marriage continues or ends in divorce, you don't have to worry about in-laws.