Re: You know what I find disturbing?
Yup, everything else is perfectly acceptable as long as it doesn’t involve sharing partners, or some sick fetish involving children or animals. shudders. My whole stance is: you’re married for life so of course you’re responsible for each other’s needs and kinks. That being said, I am not saying one should force themselves into doing something that they’re not comfortable with. I personally have no problem with anything except the things mentioned above.
Actually, that is a complete misconception and really ignorant (also sad). Maybe the guys you have encountered fall into that category. Not every single guy out there fits in that mold of the porn-watching, threesome-fantasizing category and it’s unfortunate that it has become “normal” or acceptable to you to the point where you accept it. I’m not saying most guys dont watch porn or dont hold such fantasies or gaze at other women, I know plenty that do. But it is plain ignorant to think that that description above applies to ALL men. I have asked several male acquaintances and classmates (all open and pretty crass guys) who flat out said not all guys care about threesomes and even if their girlfriends allowed it, they wouldn’t be able to respect them the same. This generalization of all guys, and like TLK pointed out, is plain stupid.