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Well you said your fiance and you are pretty much open to anything other than sharing partners.
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look, there are guys who are grossed out just at the idea of sex with one woman, and there are those that would love to try and do it with a 100 if they could at the same time. but that's not the point i am trying to make.
if you think you can know every dark thought that occurs in your man's head, give it up. no man ever shares everything with anyone, no matter how close you are. if you think he's told you about all his kinks, i say you are mistaken pal.
Again, you cant speak for everyone. It's unfortunate you never had a supportive relationship with someone who didn't judge you or your kinks.
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well i wouldnt be this way if every time i tried sharing my kinkayy ideas with someone they decided to run away. eventually we all learn how much to share, or die alone. :\
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Yeah and they don’t look at porn either. Nor do they fantasize…for the fleetingest of moments…about the hot girl on TV or in the corner of the room whilst being in a committed relationship. The only truthful statements that men make about their gender are those uttered to their female signficant others…as they have nothing to lose then…except for maybe their right or left nut. Besides…since both genders are wired exactly the same (pretty much)…one can completely understand and speak for the other. What to do men know about other men? The sheer arrogance of their claims. I mean like…SHEESH! 
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RV. I love u. 
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Yeah and they don't look at porn either. Nor do they fantasize...for the fleetingest of moments...about the hot girl on TV or in the corner of the room whilst being in a committed relationship.
actually no they dont, and if they do then they are not in a committed relationship.
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tlk is surely accumulating a lot of brownie points today. :P
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many/some women have such fantasies too, it's best not to be too prudish about any fantasies that someone might have, when it comes to sex i think we can be a bit easy going especially when you're in a committed relationship. "decent men don't do this or women don't think in this way....", i try my hardest to not judge someone harshly just b/c they have a certain fantasy. who in this world is normal? and what's the definition of normal, every time i meet somebody that seems so perfectly put together they do something that some people might consider shocking.
btw, m_was_here, correct me if i'm wrong but weren't you the one that started the "fetish" thread so what's wrong if a guy or a gal has a threesome fantasy....
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No man, I am honest here. Ask Niks, I dont watch skimpy movies, dont know the names of bollywood actresses. Only actress I like (Sandra Bullock, and my wife knows it) is not because of her hottness (as she is not) but because of her voice and acting.
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actually no they dont, and if they do then they are not in a committed relationship.
I'm on neither side, TLK. SHEESH!
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I just saw the Lake house. Brilliant watch. Watch the blind side!!!!! shes soooo good!
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Yup, everything else is perfectly acceptable as long as it doesn’t involve sharing partners, or some sick fetish involving children or animals. shudders. My whole stance is: you’re married for life so of course you’re responsible for each other’s needs and kinks. That being said, I am not saying one should force themselves into doing something that they’re not comfortable with. I personally have no problem with anything except the things mentioned above.
Actually, that is a complete misconception and really ignorant (also sad). Maybe the guys you have encountered fall into that category. Not every single guy out there fits in that mold of the porn-watching, threesome-fantasizing category and it’s unfortunate that it has become “normal” or acceptable to you to the point where you accept it. I’m not saying most guys dont watch porn or dont hold such fantasies or gaze at other women, I know plenty that do. But it is plain ignorant to think that that description above applies to ALL men. I have asked several male acquaintances and classmates (all open and pretty crass guys) who flat out said not all guys care about threesomes and even if their girlfriends allowed it, they wouldn’t be able to respect them the same. This generalization of all guys, and like TLK pointed out, is plain stupid.
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btw, m_was_here, correct me if i'm wrong but weren't you the one that started the "fetish" thread so what's wrong if a guy or a gal has a threesome fantasy....
I said it in a previous post up there that I DONT have a problem with people doing threesomes as long as it's mutual. My beef is with the generalization that EVERY guy thinks about one, wants to do one, or would jump at the chance to if his wife/girl allowed it. I dont care what people do.
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Guys who generalize the idea of threesomes as if EVERY SINGLE GUY has those fantasies. Do they ever think not all guys are like that? And most guys, esp. desi guys, would NEVER want to be shared with another girl and instead of jumping for joy at the chance, they'd actually be offended and would question the relationship?
I HATE when I read or hear "Oh, all guys would jump in at the chance" OR "all guys fantasize about the chance to do that". That is absolute BS, and I speak on behalf of my SO when I say that. If someone wants to question that or call it my "innocence" or "naivety", they are clearly the ones in the wrong and are looking to justify it. I think many of those girls which actually allow one to take place are either: a) really stupid b) enjoy the idea themselves or c) feel obligated to be okay with the idea, esp. because some guys out there make it out to be some common understood fact. =/
And of course there is the religious/cultural aspect but we aren't going there with this. Next time a guy says any of the above lines, just smack his head. Kthanksbi.
p.s. Sorry for another inappropriate thread but I've been reading this from quite a few places and it drives me crazy! Just want to hear from the guys and what their thoughts on this are. Please no trolling (that's for you Noodle Uncle).
Oye hoye..etna ghussa nahi kartai.
And by the way here is my stance. I like to admit that i might BE generalizing the desi or any other guys dislike the idea of threesome (ffm). True!. However, i would like to clarify that your fiance/boyfriend might not want to admit it this fantasy of ffm because they know..this will hurt you. Again i am only saying. Yes we can be sensitive to your feelings like that because we love and respect our wives. Again, there is always gray area.
Also, i completely agree that this idea of ffm is infact dis-respectful to your wife. There is no if or buts about it.
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well, im just pointing out her fiance is a brilliant man who knows when to keep his mouth shut and nod. :)
haha. That is what i said..she sounds like my ex-girlfriend.
Sorry no offence to you m was here...
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who says guys are the only ones that have these kinds of fantasies?
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That is exactly what i am saying.
Can someone tell me if a smart girl like that really exist or not. If she is…i would like to ask her for mango juice night out!
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who says guys are the only ones that have these kinds of fantasies?
Exactly and women can fantasies like that as well vice versa..here you go!
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So, now the thread is gonna get closed. 
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holy what a messed up thread