how do you tackle or react when you help someone particular sooooo much and have good feelings for him/her but later when you need the help from him/her (and its not the huge one), he/she shuts you up!!
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how do you tackle or react when you help someone particular sooooo much and have good feelings for him/her but later when you need the help from him/her (and its not the huge one), he/she shuts you up!!
neeki kar darya main dal.
dont expect the one you helping out will help you in future, someone else could help you.
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I move one. I dont help anyone with the intent of earning a right to be helped.
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1) Sometimes a person wants to help you out...but they may not be able to do so for various reason. Maybe the request makes them feel uncomfortable, or can potentially jeopardize a situation for them, or in the case of money...they may not have it.
2) Even if a person can't help you out, the least they can do is to either refer you to someone (or a source) that might be helpful....OR....give encouragement/kind words. BUT....if this person....(as you said in your post) "shut you up" ...that's really disrespectful. In this case, I would remove them from my friend's list...or...if it's not possible to avoid them altogether...I would maintain a distance (not get too involved with them or trust them too much).
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I move one. I dont help anyone with the intent of earning a right to be helped.
ditto.
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grow up kids…
world is bad…and people are bad…
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^Ok Nomi Uncle. Same goes for you.
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^Ok Nomi Uncle. Same goes for you.
ignore no.1
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^are you counting how many instances you ignore people?
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^are you counting how many instances you ignore people?
yes...specific people i must say :)
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i don't care...i do NEKIS for the sake of Allah to please HIM!...my reward is with HIM and not with any mortals. :) i mean what i say! :)
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I agree that you should help others without expecting any favors from them and seek your reward from Allah.....but at the same time...I think that the person you helped can AT LEAST manage courtesy and it seems that this wasn't the case with the OP. And even if you weren't expecting anything from the other person....but you find yourself in a situation where you turn to them for help...the polite...NO actually the DECENT thing to do would be to show some consideration. Some behaviors are plain WRONG....even if one only seeks their reward from Allah...this point is not justification for inconsiderate behavior.
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I move one. I dont help anyone with the intent of earning a right to be helped.
neither do I.. its not intentionally but unintentionally I asked from her a help..you can say.. I spoke to her when I thought Now she is the last hope.. and then when she refused.. it wasnt a good feeling..!
1) Sometimes a person wants to help you out...but they may not be able to do so for various reason. Maybe the request makes them feel uncomfortable, or can potentially jeopardize a situation for them, or in the case of money...they may not have it.
2) Even if a person can't help you out, the least they can do is to either refer you to someone (or a source) that might be helpful....OR....give encouragement/kind words. BUT....if this person....(as you said in your post) "shut you up" ...that's really disrespectful. In this case, I would remove them from my friend's list...or...if it's not possible to avoid them altogether...I would maintain a distance (not get too involved with them or trust them too much).
yeah not directly.. but indirectly got this reaction!! No, it wasn't the huge one.. just wanted her to go with me to a very nearby shop..! dont want to list here the helps i did to her.. those are REAL major ones.. REAL!! i mean, asking her to go with me is such a minor thing I could ever ask from her!!
i don't care...i do NEKIS for the sake of Allah to please HIM!...my reward is with HIM and not with any mortals. :) i mean what i say! :)
seriously KKF, i have the same feeling..again mentioning it all happened unintentionally.. I was not in the feeling that she SHOULD be helping me because did I, when she needed the most.. it was like... I was all alone to go (specific situation) and only she was there who could have helped me out!! she was doing nothing..she was free!
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helping someone does not get your credits like depositing money in a bank account. they are free to take your help and return you nothing.
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i will have this voice speak to me , hey what were u thinking or it will say i told you so.