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^ was that comment for me?
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This is too much!
Just don’t exploit the situation. Incest is lot lot different than any other sex. Just because someone watches porn doesn’t mean he will think about her sister. 
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There is a pretty obvious lack of understanding here about child pornography and child molesters. Those who think people like me are being hysterical about it are sadly mistaken and cannot possibly have children of their own.
When someone's sexual proclivity is CHILDREN, it will ALWAYS be children. Just like if you are attracted to females, you will ALWAYS be attacted to females, if you are attracted to males, you will ALWAYS etc etc.....
Thats why, even when a child molester realizes his (OR HER) sickness, it cannot really and truly be "cured" and is the reason that, even in "freedom loving" countries like USA, if you've been found to be attracted to children, you arent allowed within 500 yards (or something like that) from schoolyards or playgrounds, you arent allowed contact with children at any time unless you're supervised and your name, address and photo are published in order to allow parents to protect their children from you.
Try to understand this. The only "cure" found to have some success is chemical castration. This is a hormonal injection given to kill any and all sexual desire. It lasts for 3 months. Once it wears off, the offender is once again attacted sexually to children so if they arent given the injection, where's the cure in that? Surgical castration is done only in the rare case where the offender asks to have it done and can find a surgeon willing to perform the surgery.
The snide remarks about the hysteria of people like me reminds me of a family I know over in pak. They have a permanent houseguest who is a driver, caretaker and general household help. He's also molested 2 generations now (and working on his 3rd). The young parents are in complete denial that he'd ever do anything to "THEIR" children. Thats exactly what happened to the previous 2 generations.
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^^ verzi chacha?
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Please note and no disrespect to anyone, but child porn is not a need its a sickness. I would definitely get that person help and keep in mind the danger that eventually it might escalate to something more than just viewing porn, and if that person is close to you, you need to make sure he never endangers any children in his presence. If you decide to leave him, make sure people whose children may be endangered have no misconceptions about that person. Children are our most precious commodity and its our duty to protect them and their innocence at all costs.
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yeah its not just enough to get yourself out of the relationship but to help enforce the law so he is under watch .. does time if needed and has less access to kids.
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reminds me of someone else, who several ppl called out because while they had pushedtheir pwn experiences with this guy at the back of their mids theycould not stand to see him go after another generation
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mywish
btw the charges are serious, and really this is not something that is your problem nor can you solve it, I would call the cops so they can get the proof before you talk to him..maybe he will get wise and hide evidence or worse yet, blame it on you.
If i were u I would hide a camcorder in the room so it records him and his viewing and give that to the cops, be sure to also give them info on who your internet provider is et
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where ever thats written, i’m sure the meaning has been misunderstood, and taken out of context by certain pervert mullahs, u have to understand that at the time it was written there were a lot of wars going on, crusades and all that, a lot of men died leaving mothers to look after the family, if she had no income, how could she provide for her kids?, and if she had daughters of 12 and above, they were to be permitted to get married, so they wouldn’t have to wander the streets and be taken advantage of. In this case, when i say married, i don’t mean married in the conventional way (sexual relationship etc), to me, if a guy married a 12 year old girl, it has to be because of some type of cultural neccessity, and only in the best interests of the girl, so as to protect her from a potential bad situation, he should be pure in his heart and not look at her as a ‘regular’ wife until she is of age, at least 16/17.
To me (in my mid 20’s), even when i talk to a 17 yr old girl, even if she’s pretty/fit, to me she’s like a younger sister or something, when they turn 18 it’s something totally different, i don’t know how things were at the time of the prophet, but a 12 yr old girl is nothing but a young child, at 16 they don’t know what they want, so to me the ‘marrying a 12yr old girl’ has to have been taken out of context, the same with having multiple wives, these situations can on be permissable out of neccesity where there is no better alternative.
Any man who takes a 12yr old girl a ‘normal’ wife, that girl has to become a 12yr old widow, because he’s pure evil, and Islam doesn’t preach evil, any1 who understands what islam is about (people with any sense) will understand that if it says that its permissable to marry a 12yr old, then there is a reason why it’s permissable, it’s the best solution to a current problem, i.e poverty, war etc, it doesn’t mean wife in the way we think of wives today, taking multiple wives, in those days meant bringing women into ure family who had lost their husbands/brothers/fathers to war, and couldn’t provide for themselves (more men than women), it doesn’t mean that ure allowed to have more than 1 wife just because ure can’t be satisfied with 1 women.
Some guys say, “but it says in Islam, that if ure first wife agrees to u taking a second wife, its allowed”, these guys are either dumb or ignorant, what loving wife would agree to sharing her husband, i mean would he agree to share his wife with another man? Then they say, “yes but i know some1 in pakistan, who’s wife agreed”, they don’t think to themselves that maybe she had no other choice.
And when u tell ask some paki’s why women can’t take more than 1 husband, they use the excuse " well if she became pregnant, u wouldn’t know who the father was"…they seem to forget that they living in the 21st century, we got DNA test for all that, so that argument in the current world is baseless.
So when it comes to Islamic teaching, read and think for ureself, don’t just follow molvi’s :Pagri:and mullah’s:amamah:, they ain’t shepherds, and u aint a sheep, some of them are possesed by 12th century warlords trying to preach Islam,
u got ure own brain, so use it, don’t just take a written passage out of a book and take it literally, take into account when it was written, society at that time, and what reasons would be behind it.
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Look at me, i'm writing a book, i ain't even gettin paid. :sleep2:
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if theres any sheep out there who take offence to any of the above..........SHUT THE BAAAAAAAAAAAA UP.......and go chew on some grass.
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This was one absurdly stupid question and most of the answers were equally absurdly stupid. No one gets prepared for such unfortunate revelations. What one does in such situation will vary from person to person? What one will do in such a situation will be highly dependent on the quality of the relationship. It is easy to give an opinion now thinking about catching your future spouse in such a situation as most of the people here think malevolently about their future spouses already. Can you really and truly tell me about your response if you were to find your dear brother or dear sister or dear father or dear mother watching such porn?? Or, horror of horrors, your own sweet son!!!! Let see how many of you will hand them to the authorities or how many of you will try to mend their ways and how many of you will utterly try to hide it.
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I'm sorry but there is no way i would try to change him or make the marriage work...it would have o be divorce...i could not put up with that and it would it always be at the back of my mind no matter what.
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Witchdr, you're wrong when you speculate that people would answer differently should it be father, mother, son, daughter etc. If a law is broken, the law-breaker needs to answer for it. Hiding it or sweeping it under the rug constitutes "aiding and abetting", a criminal act in itself. Two wrongs dont make a right either.
As far as the "stupidity" of the thread, well its human nature to wonder about all kinds of what-ifs yeah? Thats kind of what this forum is for....and it wouldnt have gone to 4 pages simply due to its "stupidity" right?
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Mamaof3! I have a high regard of your opinion, almost all the time, but you simply cannot comprehend where I am coming from. The emphasis on family relationship is way more important in the East than it is in the West. Families try to cover up when crimes are committed inside the family. I am not saying that it is OK to cover up crimes; I am just implying that it happens and will continue to happen in the Eastern societies for long time. And there will be plenty in the above list who will do the same (if God forbids such a situation occurs).