Re: You get married only once...
Hareem, you cannot predict what will happen in the future...my husband and I were talking about 2 of my friends who died within the last 2 years, one of cancer and another of a brain hemorrhage..both with young kids. The husband of the first got remarried within 6 months of her death and seems well settled with his new wife and his kids. The second hasn't remarried yet.
That led us to talking about ourselves that in the case of my death, would he remarry and while he claimed that he will not, I understand that he is a human being with needs so to ask him not to get married again would be asking him to supress his humanly needs of having a life partner. I know that no one will ever be able to replace me as the mother of his kids but I also know that he cannot be a father and mother...so having a step mom is a good alternative with the hope that she will not be cruel and unjust. I am sure my husband will have that much wisdom and judgement to pick a decent and sensible woman over an immature and selfish woman to be his wife. Again, all this is unpredictable...maybe he may never remarry and would be able to raise my girls allby himself.
I, however, am extremely sure that I will never remarry because I cannot imagine having a relationship with another man let alone having a father figure for my children.