Hareem, I would think an adult companion would fulfill a person in a way that kids cannot. And no, I'm not just talking about the physical aspect of it.
By the same token, kids fulfill you in a different way than a spouse does. One can't replace the other, don't you think?
What about the time when the kids grow up (as early as late teens these days) and move on in their lives? What happens to the single parent? Loneliness..
I understand but I believe our children should be our first priority. If I don't feel right for my kids to have a step-parent then I can live with lonliness and I expect from my husband to have the same mindset, of course I can't force him specially if I die.
My own father didn't get marry after my mom's death.....he lived alone for three years missing her everyday and I really respect my father for this.
Hareem...i understand where you are coming from, i also would never marry again and
can not bear the thought that my husband shall marry again after im gone....
and he says that he would never do that. I told him if you ever did get married again
i would become a ghost and haunt you for life!!!!
On a serious note though i would want my kids to be looked after and loved and really i dont think step mom's will love them as her own. i understand that not all are like that but dont want to risk my childrens safety and happiness.
Well, I'm glad I'm not the only one with this mindset and then we have Icono on men's side. :)