I didn't know they is such a breath taking issue.
Chann ji, you can't imagine the breadth of the issue.
Re: You Don't know what you got baby!
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Point was that most desis, men and women, who have never been with other people don't have anything to compare their spouses to and know how good or bad their spouse is.
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compare!! interesting choice of words!
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It is universally given that most married desis think that they could have gotten a better spouse. Even if they don't someone close to them will remind them how he could have married a more beautiful girl or how she could have gotten a doctor instead of fateechar computer engineer. Most desis complain how their spouse does not appreciate them. Most wives will taunt their husbands, koi aisee waisee mili hoti tujhe tou pata chal jaaata. They even have a song in Punjabi for that..ikk maineyoN tere naal kattian ve hor koi kattdi vi naaN....
Why it is so? why desis don't appreciate what they got? because they have nothing to compare too.
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Not because they don't have something to compare with BUT because they don't know how to maintain a happy relation ship.
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That is another reason why lot of "chaaloo" girls and guys change and settle down very well after marriage.
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Ever had a discussion with somebody who has been through a bad patch in his/her life in this regard? They will tell you the things they would have avoided to do, if given a second chance.
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Suppose you wer chaaloo before marriage...you probably met some great looking people who you really wanted to marry but they dumped you after a week like a hot potato. You probably also met some not so good looking or smart but really nice people otherwise. After a few such failures if you meet someone with average combination of good looks, education and good behaviour, someone who cares about you, you will really appreciate it.
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Why does somebody have to fantazise about his/her better half? You are not in a movie. I DO agree that such type of experience can change you a lot; not to mention teach u. But why is it so hard to differentiate
b/w reality and fantasy. We all know, what we should look for, in our better half then why don't we? perhaps cause' some people need to go through a bad experience to understand life.
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I don;t know if I got my point accross but what I am saying is that desis who marry arranged before knowing anyone else have their expectations set too high..it is all fantasy for them and have no idea of reality.....
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Its there fault if they want to live in a world of dreams and set high expectations. They should realize both the bitter and sweet facts of a relationship. And even if they DO have fantasies then they should LEARN to put reality into their fantasies as fantasy is just a fantasy;
a figment of ur imagination.
*Moral of the story:
its up to the ppl to decide if they want to learn that;
by jumping in a well might hurt them (through other ppl's experience and from common sense)
or
take the risk to jump in it and then find the pain one goes through; and consequently bare the consequences.*
The decision is urs.
on a side note there really isn't a perfect method for match making with a 100% success rate. Its up to U how successful you want ur relationship to be.
How refreshing to read such thoughts.
hmmm..well Life without feelings is like being on the inside looking out.
Or like peeking in a window.
Life with feelings is home.
mmmm? Remember ..... How may I count the hours without you?
A friend mine describes love as:
Love is when you spend time with each other, and don't have to speak, just hold hands.
mmmm what is love really?
closeness, an ability to talk to one another, caring, smiles, winks, giggles, happiness, and mostly? a mutual feeling of respect for one another
Re: You Don’t know what you got baby!
luvv ur punjabi:k: 
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