I have two friends. Both very attractive, both in love with eachother. One of them is overweight, the girl. She wants to drop a few dozen pounds. The guy doesnt want her to drop even 1 pound. He told her if she loses the weight, guys will be after her and she might go away from him. She wants to lose the weight because its unhealthy and she wants to look and feel good, and has assured him she wont leave him for that reason. He refuses to believe it and insists that she maintain being overweight.
Question: What advice would you give the girl/guy? She has tried explaining it to him but he just wont understand or listen. She doesnt want to leave him either, as she loves him. Why do some ppl think like that?
The girl actually wants "approval" from anyone before she embarks on a healthy life style? She is just being dumb. The guy is probably not worth it, if he is so insecure about himself. This is just an indication of worse things to come in their relationship. The dude needs to grow up big time, else any of his relationships are doomed.
The guy is very insecure. The girl should realize this, and continue to try and lose weight for herself first. However, if she really loves him and doesn't want to jeapordize the relationship, she should try and explain to him that in addition to looking and feeling good about herself, she also wants to look and feel good for him. Anyway, she shouldn't need anyone's approval to try and be healthier.
He doesn’t even trust her??? Trust is what forms the basis of these kinds of relationships…a relationship without trust is as bad as not being in a relationship at all, if you really think about it. If it makes her feel better about herself, he should, as a good friend, let her lose weight AND he should start trusting her by now.
If she wants to lose weight for the right reasons, like health and what not, theguy should support her. If his reasons for not being supportive are that she might leave him, to be honest shes probably better off without him.
He is quite insecure and extremely selfish to have this mentality that if she loses weight, she might find someone else. If she does find someone else, unfortunately it's all for the best since it wasn't meant to be and prolonging a bad relationship is never the answer. For now, he needs to have faith in her. Likewise, she needs to do what is best for her, not him. And, what is best and healthy is for her to shed those dozens of pounds!
Both your friends are morons, they should both jump off a cliff holding hands and rid this world of their stupidity.
The guy sounds like an insecure 12 year old. What kind of idiotic logic or reasoning is that? He may think he's in love, but he's probably watched too many indian movies, and this is just indian movie love.
The girl, after hearing the retarded logic of the guy, not only still sticks around, but also considers listening to his warped reasoning. She needs permission?? Good grief, she sounds like she has no self respect if she can't make up her own mind about her own body. She's probably also just watched too many indian movies.
These people sound like 16 year olds and are probably NOT ready for any kind of adult relationship, Love, my foot.
