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Actually this was the case with him. He had so many advisers and they didn’t only tell him to control me but advised him many other things too…
I wonder how can one be this much stupid. Everyone should understand its his/her own life and no one else can understand their circumstances..obviously everyone needs to vent/share things at one or another spot of time..but it doesn’t mean blindly following others’ suggestions.
Re: y it is like that?
The speaker (head of psychiatry at Stanford) said, among other things, that one of the best things that a man could do for his health is to be married to a woman whereas for a woman, one of the best things she could do for her health was to nurture her relationships with her girlfriends.
Reference
http://www.empowher.com/community/share/quality-girlfriend-time-good-your-health
And no, it is not the case. Of course it depends upon the person that you are gonna hitch with. Only insane and emotionally insecure dudes are like this will put up such pointless restrictions, trust me. Having girlfriends is SO important to remain sane. Priorities, though, should be set as with being married comes liabilities. Anything in excess is harmful so as long as you know your responsibilities and priorities, meeting your friends in the leisure time should not be a problem at all.
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Well at least I want to see my friends after marriage also. And I think its really unfair for a guy to think that he can see his friends but his wife have to just sit home and hang only with family members. I have couple really good and close friends who I surely will see after marriage too, other just "friends" and might stay in past then. I dont want to even get married with someone whose thinking doesn't match mine, and for me this is really important or else I would honestly go crazy if I couldn't see my friends. But of course there is a limit, u cant spend all ur freetime with friends like before marriage and thats for both; husband and wife. I think its good if he sees his friends and I will see same time mine. And for my opinion its also important that husband has own friends too.
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Where do people find such gems. **I guess another question to add during the rishta interview should be "Will you be okay with your spouse interacting with friends **or will you pitch a hissy fit and confine them to the home?" Some of these threads and generalizations are depressing.
This is definitely a question I ask of guys I'm introduced to. I want to know the guy's thoughts on my socializing and having my own friends and dare I say maintaining my independence is.
I had one guy totally negate it - he couldn't understand why I felt the need to maintain contact with friends. So the world is filled with all sorts of people...